She is very very gorgeous NOT KIDDING, smart, intelligent, responsible, independent , 24 years old and a lot of men want her as well. Some don't even know that she has 2 children. He is about 2 years older than her, no children. Both haven't been married yet. He probably likes her but my friend (the young lady) doesn't know exactly and wonders if you young men (ages 21-26) would ever consider dating a young beautiful women but she has children? THANKS
2007-09-10 20:58:03 · 14 answers · asked by don'tbestupid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the girl was responsible then she wouldn't have gotten pregnant. If she was gorgeous the father would never have left. Makes me wonder..... She just needs to keep her legs closed and stop being.....intelligent.
2007-09-10 22:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie Pie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was 24 I wanted to date a woman with one child. I would have preferred no children, but I was pretty desperate and lonely. So I'd say the pool of interested men would be smaller because of the children, but there would still be plenty.
2007-09-11 04:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my twenties I would NOT have dated a woman with children - I was more concerned with having fun, partying, etc etc.
Now I am in my 30's, am more responsible, have my own free money etc, then maybe I would consider it. But I am already happily married so it's purely a theoretical question.
It's very important the man realises what he is letting himself in for - he will (and should) always be less important than the children, there is likely to be "other man " baggage, it will be more expensive and less fun (in the partying and getting sloshed sense). When he first meets her she'll be like "I have two kids" and he'll be "Yes, that's OK" but once the initial buzz wears off it might not be a whole lot of fun (unless he wants a ready made family).
Later in life they might want kids, but she already has two, so say they have two kids together. Thats at least a 4 bedroom house, a renault people carrier, and more mouths to feed - it's not cheap raising someone elses kids even if you do get maintenance.
Shut up about appearance as well - it is less important than you think, and lay off the "independant" - that word repels men as they think "OK whats in it for me" as much as the word "dependant" does.
Shne has two children - she has the advantage in that she gets to be with them all the time, her own children. The father of those children is equally badly treated - he won't see them as much, has to cough up maintenance that prohibits his daily life as much as having children does hers, and ultimately she made the decision to have children. Children are never an accident and should never be viewed as such.
So, it's a no. In my 20's it would have been easy to find a woman who would meet every one of your criteria above who didn't have children.
We would have had bucket loads of partying, fell in love, got married, had our own children, in our own house, with no baggage and each other and our family as our priority....and in fact that's exactly what happened to me! I am glad I didn't settle for someone who already had baggage like that.
Sorry it's not a happy message for you but it's the truth.
2007-09-11 04:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Paul M 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
im 24, and i have nothing against dating a girl with kids, sometimes i actually prefer it, they tend to usually be more responsible, and capable to being independent, but ultimately it comes down to whether or not i am able to get along with the children
2007-09-11 04:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by monkyduck324 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 and I wouldn't date a girl with kids. Being a student, I would feel like we're at different places in our lives.
2007-09-11 04:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely never avoid a girl because she has children. Kids love me so that's not a problem. I wouldn't even care what she looks like as long as her and I mesh.
2007-09-11 04:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not with 2 kids these means by the time she rich 30 she will be having 4 kids
2007-09-11 04:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by lucy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I probably wouldn't, just seeing a kid makes me think of the responsibility of taking care of 'em. And really, I wouldn't want to take care of kids that weren't my own. I'm 24 btw.
2007-09-11 04:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kaze 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That would not matter at all, in the end if the man loves you he already will love the kids as well.
2007-09-11 04:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by sword_maker_samurai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure julius is about 14 and immature. i have many friends who have dated girls with kids and we are all in our 20s
2007-09-11 04:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by mirel; GO COOGS! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋