My husband died last month from Cancer. I had been having a horrible time dealing with it. I got invited to church by a friend. As they were singing hymns my Husband was strong on my mind. And I started to cry uncontrollably. The members gathered around me and prayed for me. A Guest Minister came up and delivered a message from God, to me. I feel at peace now about my Husband's passing. His Mom can't seem to understand how I can feel this way and listen to the message I was given. What can I do? This is the third child she has lost. And 2 others have Cancer to.
2007-09-10 20:28:39 · 8 answers · asked by kitkat1640 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
And what was incrediable was I was thinking about suicide so I could join him on the other side and had NOT told anyone about it. I continued to put on a happy front for other people. And the Guest Minister knew about it.
2007-09-10 20:35:06 · update #1
here recently in the past 2 years I have went to more funerals and it was mostly young people which is realy sad but the last funeral I went to was my uncle he was only 33 and the other deaths bothered me very badly from the way the people died well when my uncle passed some lady In Texas that no one knows or has even heard of called my grandmother and told her that her son was in heaven and that no one could judge him there and my grandma said that she didn't know who was calling and that she was a liar cause her son was alive and at a party well hours later he got into a bad car accident and staied out in the woods for 24 hours and died hours later after arriving at the hospital but that was the first time I understood peace after a death cause it was the message from the lady in Texas that let us know everything was alright and that he was in heaven and that is all that matters, killing your self is not the way to go I don't know what you believe but I believe if you commit suicide you go str8 to hell and your husband is is heaven so you wouldn't be doing him or yourself any good and think about your children who would take care of them I'm glad you are at peace and that is all that matters and honey you don't have to prove anything to his mother just because she isn't where you are then she shouldn't take it out on you she probably feels this way cause she didn't make peace with him before he left but don't worry about her or anybody else you have nothing to prove to anyone keeping living your life and taking care of your kids God makes no mistakes and you will all be together again one day and have absolutely no worries I can promise you that and he already has
2007-09-10 20:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really do have to love youself if you want anyone else to..I feel what your going through. You feel like you lost your "Joy" somewhere. If music is what gives u peace than what are you waiting for? Pray and ask God for wisdom,strength and joy. Also you may need to find a grief counselor or support group, to help you get over your loss.Life sucks and you are not the only person who is experiencing those kinds of thoughts or emotions, so don't feel bad. Death is easy if you ask me..it's living thats HARD, especially when you feel like your alone. Don't up and leave your life behind, problems have a way of following people.. Insted you gotta find something you like to do. Pick up a hobby or a music class anything that sparks your intrest!! This 2 shall pass
2016-05-17 04:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody will understand how God could have used that Minister to comfort and help you, not unless that had happened to them also. I have had a similar experience, so I do know how it is.
Your MIL is surely hurting badly right now, and isn't at a place in her life to understand that God saw how much you needed a message and sent it to you.
You could have ignored it, or brushed it aside. But you chose to accept God's love and comfort for you.
Perhaps He is giving you extra strenth for a special reason.
Seems He has something He is preparing you for.
I'm so glad you are more at peace now.
2007-09-10 20:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I'm so sorry for your loss. But Jesus is the most important thing in one's life. In a very real way your husband died to bring you to Him!
Let this Scripture speak directly to your heart:
Mat 10:34 ¶ Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.
Mat 10:35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
Mat 10:36 And a man's foes [shall be] they of his own household.
2007-09-10 20:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her exactly what happened, as much as you feel comfortable telling her.
I am so sorry for the loss of your husband, but so glad that God has given you comfort.
I'll pray for your mother-in-law. How horrible it would be to outlive one's children!
2007-09-10 20:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you can't, dear...everyone processes grief in their own way and on their own timetable...just thank God for the peace He has given you, and pray for your mother in law...it is a terrible thing for a parent to lose even one child, let alone three; she must truly be hurting
2007-09-10 20:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by spike missing debra m 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that my friend is a tough one,its hard to make people see what you feel,i would say just do what you have to to be happy,you have a life too*!*
2007-09-10 20:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you can make her understand.
But reassure her that you have not forgotten your husband, and that you never will.
2007-09-10 20:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋