so, shes 18. its her first bf. she met him online, chatted for a week, and then went out. all she wanted was one date. but he wanted more. so she gave in, cuz she liked him too and they ended up being together. she was really excited, being her first bf and all. but their "dates" were all in the same place - at his house. and they lasted from 7pm till about 1 or 3 in the morning(am). that was a huge deal - it was her first bf, they had only gone out like once or twice, her parents didnt want her coming home so late, etc...she just took everything to a new level that she wasnt ready for...after a month, actually, not even a month, just 3 weeks of going out with him, making out w/ him (he lives alone), she decided she was ready for the next big step...i was freaking out and **** when she told me that a night before, they tried to do it. but it didn't work. thank god. she would have SO regreted it. she said that it hurt really bad and that it didnt go in so they stopped.
2007-09-10 20:01:02 · 23 answers · asked by blah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i couldnt believe what i was hearing. in 3 weeks, this guy she met online convinced her to do it wit him! omg i was like WTF!? so now, theyve been together for 5 weeks and for about 2 weeks shes been lying to her whole family, telling them shes not wit him anymore, cuz her parents wouldnt let her. so thats anne's story. she thinks jake, thats his name, is the best thing thats happened to her, in her whole life. she says hes the best guy she's ever met, the guy that ALL the girls want...i was like, umm, no, i wouldnt want him as my bf. and she was like...umm okaaaaaay...but shes sure that everyone is just jealous of her or that we envy her, not that were trying to stop her from making a big mistake. jake, however, is not like anne. hes had tons of gf's and hes had sex wit all of em. anne's the only virgin hes been with, shes the only one smaller than him (by one month), shes the only brunette one...anyway the point is that hes trying to make her feel special. what should i say to her?
2007-09-10 20:03:44 · update #1
Yeah I guess, if she wants to become another notch on his bed post......WTF is with today's youth wanting to lose their innocence and virginity to someone they've literally known for all of 2 seconds of their life?
I hope she sees sense and what he really is....and that she doesn't go ahead and either become pregnant or get an infection or STD from this charmer......
2007-09-10 20:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone's in love. Probably this describes Anne better than it fits Jake. He is just looking for the next conquest while she is looking for commitment. When she becomes pg all this will change. Being pg is a big problem for the guy because it means commitment. Hope your friend is ready for a big disappointment because it doesn't sound like Jake is ready for it. Just continue being her friend. She will need you more than ever, no matter what happens.
2007-09-10 21:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can appreciate your moral dilemma but this situation is bigger than your comfort. The whole family of kids is at risk from negligence - and who knows what else may happen in the time it takes to clear it up. You can leave reading the email out of the evidence you give - maybe you have plenty without it. Or you could say someone confidentially emailed you telling the detail. You will feel better knowing the whole situation is being investigated. Warm wishes, good luck xx
2016-05-17 04:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm,you know what it happened to me also ,everything happened very fast and we did everything just in a month,you know i wasnt virgin from the age of 13 ,so it doesnt matter if you had many sex partners,you should feel love,,,after love everything can happen maybe just in a day.....the important thing is that you or anne first try to know the personality of that guy,then if you find he is not a good guy you can say everything about him.
2007-09-10 20:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Denni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake! Tell her to run like her feet are on fire! Obviously this guy wants only one thing. SEX! he is not interested in her! Otherwise why would all their dates be in his house at night?
2007-09-10 20:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by reallycrazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree completely with joe c....but it doesnt seem to matter what we say because you arent that person, unless you are covering this up somehow. i am a Christian, so i dont believe in that, and 3 weeks is too short, and it seems all he wanted anyway was to get in her pants. he is likely to try again really soon...i would talk to her. God Bless.
2007-09-10 20:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by dustyalford 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she dont understand you anymore so just try to pretend that you are agree with them and treat like a good friend . in this way she may listens to you
2007-09-10 20:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by asal.s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's really desperate to hv sex or what? tell her to wait....it's not worth it to lost ur virgin to a man like that. she's juz too eager learn bout what sex intercourse is....tell her to be more mature n think wisely b4 act something like that again.
2007-09-10 20:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by hunny_bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! No! This is nuts.Such a huge event after three weeks. It probably hurt because she spasmed up and lucky for her.
2007-09-10 20:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TELL HER UPFRONT that she is making a terrible mistake!
Tell her what's she is loosing... TELL HER THAT SHE"S GONNA REGRET IT SOOOOO BAD!
...she really shouldn't do it! .... tell her to get a new boyfriend... ireally think he's only usiing her! ...she's gonna really regret it!
Hope I could help!
2007-09-10 20:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋