So, I just met this guy and he is amazing. I asked a question earlier about my parents being overprotective and all. And he replied to my email almost immediately and he had no problem meeting my parents becuase he really wanted to get to know me. I haven't met him yet, we have only talked thorugh email. Anyways I was wondering what are first date don'ts and what are first date do's. I haven't dated much in my past and the very few dates I have had obviously didn't go so well. So, my questions are. What are good first date places? Both of us aren't into drinking and bars and stuff so bars are not an option. And of course what are date do's and don'ts. Thanks for your time and answers.
2007-09-10 19:40:40 · 14 answers · asked by Lilly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of you are asking how old we are well Iam 18 and he is 21. Also, he is going to meet my parents before we go out.
2007-09-10 19:55:27 · update #1
im sorry, i dont mean to rain on your parade, but i will have to red flag this.
you are old enough to drink, but your parents are over protective ?
he hasnt met you yet, and he is willing to meet your parents ?
forget first date, lets work on first meeting.
get his personal information. name, address, phone number. then verify it.
if he isnt lying, meet some place public. have him wear something so you can see him before he sees you. or call his cell when you arrive and have him tell you where he is. check him out before you approach.
do not let him know where you live, or how you got there.
a group date with friends would be better.
yes, i think there is a good chance you are dealing with a lying pervert. sorry.
edit - i just read your other question.
yes, a guy who cares about you will run the gauntlet of your parents.
it is actually good to have overprotective parents, guys who only want one thing, wont go through the trouble of dealing with your parents. so only serious guys will hang around.
but, a guy usually wants to know you before meeting the parents, to see if you are worth the trouble.
and i just read your add details. if he is going to meet the parents first, that should be all you do, that should be the first date. spend the date at your parents. then LISTEN to what your parents think about him.
a lying pervert would never spend the night with mom and dad. they will see right through him. he might say hi and get away with it. but, anything more then a few minutes and your parents will be able to tell.
order a pizza, rent some movies. stay home where it is safe.
next time, you can have a first date.
2007-09-10 19:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do's:
- Good personal hygiene. Clean hair, nails and good breath are the small things that really matters.
- Go somewhere not too crowded for dinner. You'll get better service and you can have a intimate conversation to get to know each other.
- Make eye contacts. You body language matters!
Don'ts:
- Don't wear too much makeup or too much perfume. You want to look pretty, but not like you are trying too hard.
- Keep the conversation light on the first date. No personal drama with your ex, don't talk about religion or politics unless you know that you have the same point of view. Find out what kind of books, movies, or music he likes. these things say a lot about a person.
2007-09-10 19:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a phone number and an address for him. Does he live at home? Or, does he have his own place? Find out what he does with his time. Does he play video games all night or does he have a job. Who are his friends? Maybe you know some of the same people. If so, ask them what he is like. And good luck on that first date. Its always a nice surprise to find one who is not looking for sex all the time.
2007-09-10 21:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet during the day and plan something in the eyes of the public till you know him beter. no first date kisses. make him work for it. it will intrigue him that much more lunch or a daytime movie. sounds simple enough.keep an open mind as well as a positive attitude and if it goes well let it continue into the early evening. and end it with a peck on the cheek and a hug good night
2007-09-10 19:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by sandman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes me a while to get to know someone and really do the whole "movie date" thing where they go on this romantic journey, kiss, make love, and then "ill see you tomorrow?" kind of thing. since you dont know him, meet at a cafe or something, or a well-known local restaurant, talk over dinner, MAYBE go to a movie, and if he is truly interested in you, and you in him, give him a peck on the cheek, or a hug. when my girlfriend kissed me for the first time, it wasnt a true kiss...it was a half of a peck, but i preferred it nice and slow...we dated i think 3 weeks before we kissed...and i wouldnt of had it any other way. the suspense of it is exciting. i believe in no sex before marriage...so we dont do all that. but, most of all, just enjoy it, get to know him, and see what he likes. from there, you will know where to take him on the second date, or he'll know where to take you ;) hope i helped....i dont have much experience with people i dont know...ive always personally known my girlfriends. Have fun, and God Bless!!
2007-09-10 19:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by dustyalford 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no longer inevitably, lol that's called a date, i think of using fact they set a date at the same time on which they're gonna pass out. i think of diverse human beings do assorted issues on their dates.
2016-10-10 08:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating do's and donts!
Do: innitiate conversation...sports,family,travel,interests,friends,hobbies
Dont:put out!
Do:be yourself
Dont:pretend to be someone your not..or lie...even a little...it might comeback to hurt you..if the relationship turns into something more
Do: go somewhere where you can talk and somewhere that is confortable
Dont: get drunk
anyways what im trying to say is use common sence...if you dont feel right talking about something then dont...just go with the flow let it come naturally! Good luck!
2007-09-10 21:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt ask him to go anywhere formal. I mean, ur not really sure if hes the one. so go to like applebees or chilis or someplace semiformal. And I wouldnt meet his parents yet, id wait a few dates first. Just be nice to him on ur date. There really isnt neway to screw up ur first date. I mean if u like spilled coffee or something, then I wouldnt take it personal, id use that to make us get closer. so there isnt ne wow advise. u just gotta go with the flow.
2007-09-10 19:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Hippy of 21st Century - Jargouss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a first date then you guys are probably gonna do alot of talking so try to stick with somewhere not too noisy, maybe some kind of tour..But it should not be too extravagant because u might not be able to top it..As for dos, do be yourself, you dont want someone falling for someone youre not. Dont scare your date away with commitment talk unless he asks..
2007-09-10 19:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by str8671_bred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you or he are but! I think anytime you meet someone over th net! It would be a good thing to have friends, parents or whoever around!
Myself! I think it would be a good thing to have your parents around!
2007-09-10 19:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋