I met a guy back in February at my church. We've been 'getting to know one another.' We hang out socially; there are always others around.
We've been talking a bit more the last four weeks or so, he's purchased my food on several occasions. When he found out I didn't have an air conditioner, he offered to get me one. They were sold out, so he got me a pretty nice fan. Several of us were playing an outdoor game during the heat wave; when he found out I didn't have any water to refresh myself with, he ran straight up a large embankment on a twisted ankle to go and get me water.
When I say 'we've been talking' I mean, him, myself and at least one other person. When it's just the two of us, conversation is stilted. I tried drawing him out with questions that went no where. This last weekend, he said things that made me think I may have offended him. I apologized by email, but received no response. I'm a little confused; any ideas?
2007-09-10 18:55:01 · 13 answers · asked by gentlewoman_of_god 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Okay, based on some answers, it seems like more details are involved.
He is a Christian, and has a very strong walk with the Lord. And yes, he is painfully shy. He's told me he gets his email at work, but doesn't really have time to respond, which I believe.
I do like him; I'm just not sure what to do. If he likes me, and I pull back, he may think I'm not interested. I feel like if I don't pull back, I may irritate him.
2007-09-10 19:12:55 · update #1
Further Developments...
Last night I got into scriptures, and realized the issue wasn't with this guy, but was with the fact he had distracted me from the Lord. I have now refocused myself on His way anud, regardless of what's going on with my friend, I am saved and I have a relationship with God and that's what matters most to me. I appreciate all of your answers and will choose the one that helped the most. Thank you all.
in Christ,
gentlewoman_of_god
2007-09-11 03:12:46 · update #2
If you like him in any way ask him straight what has caused a rift in your relationship. He should be honest to say if he cannot say what is going on in his life tell him you are alwaqys available but he needs to be open than walk away and see what happens. reality will set in in form. You will see who he really is. Don't hold on, God is big enough to work things out or the guy is small enough to live with his problems and not be open and get nowhere. Don't cling you will get heurt if you do not watch out
2007-09-10 19:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by yaw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because this guy goes to your church does not necessarily, ensure a good relationship is pending ! People, (at least some), who do not even, attend a church nor are of the faith do similar things both, to and with the girl or woman he likes. My advice, ( since you asked), is this. Since you have done your part in attempting to resolve "hurt feelings", and he hasn't acknowledged you - take this as both, a warning and a hint. Don't allow your imagination to get the best of you and convince you, that he is "right for you".
Wait for another guy to walk into your life - being married to the wrong person is "hell" !!!
2007-09-10 19:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your challenge could also be simply your query. It is in view that you're watching for a specified high-quality that you will not be capable to discover. Just speak to men and women and by way of men and women i do not imply men and women at your church, and also you might discover out that perhaps you are not particularly watching for a christian man, however anyone you honestly think suitable with. Be open-minded approximately it, by way of narrowing your standards to simply Christians and (surely, your specified company of it), you're lacking out on assembly a few quality men and women. And shall we face it, you'll be able to be homosexual, a jerk, or married and nonetheless be Christian.
2016-09-05 09:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? He "purchased your food?" What are you asking? How on earth could anyone on here know what the answer to your question is? Consult a psychic, ask a friend of his, or better yet, ask him directly. This isn't eHarmony.com....isn't it time for the kiddies to go to bed yet??? You are asking this question in the wrong catagory. Try dating or relationships because this seems oddly out of place here. Yikes!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-10 19:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Native Spirit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, he likes you, but seems to be painfully shy. If you like him back and want to have a relationship with him, I would counsel patience. If you have a mutual friend you can trust, you might try to get him or her to tell him that you like him, to reinforce what is likely some major insecurity.
2007-09-10 19:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by mcvoluminous 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You forgot to say thankyou for the fan and water. love and light
2007-09-10 19:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lightworker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure. Humans, especially reigious humans, over-complicate the mating ritual.
2007-09-10 19:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Only time will tell. You will see him around.
2007-09-10 19:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait here. Let me go get a bag of stones.
2007-09-10 18:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Guys do not check their e-mail as much as us girls do so apologize in person.
2007-09-10 19:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by Goddess Enzeru 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋