Would it be OK to combine my 2 children's birthdays into one party?

Question

In May my son will be 7 and daughter 1. Her birthday is 5 days before his. Would it be ok to have a birthday party for them both at the same time? I would like to try to save a little bit of money, and not have to have people plan 2 seperate days for parties. I would get 2 seperate cakes with different themes for the party.

On their actual birthdays I plan on having something for each just with them, plus Mommy and Daddy, maybe the grandparents.

Answer 1

If our children are not born in multiples than they should be granted the one thing that was given to them the day they were born. Their own birthday.

I come from a family where my brother Mark was born the 2nd, my brother Rick the 10th and me the 20th and having to share my birthday made it seem like a chore to my family and not something worth celebrating for just me.

Please don't do it!

Have a fun party with your son's friends for him plus any family that is interested and something small during the week even just for your little girl. All she needs is a cake and a balloon to celebrate her first.

Please don't set this precedent of sharing birthdays!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Throw two parties.
1). There's two much of an age diff. 7 & 1
2). Turning 1 is special.
3). Since your son had his own birthday from age 1-6, i think it's only fair your daughter gets her own at least for the first birthday.

Here's an idea. Since your son and daughter's birthdays are 5 days apart, why dont you throw a 1 year old party, and then throw a party for your son's birthday at a later date like 71/2. Of course celebrate your son's birthday with the immediate family on the accurate date.
It's been done before. I know someone who's birthday was a day before christmas. Her mom threw parties every summer to celebrate her birthday with invitations of 2.5 yr old, 3.5 yr old, etc... That's awesome.

Answer 3

I was blessed and cursed with twin brothers on my first birthday. Because I come from a family of 13 children and money was always tight we always had to share our parties together while other siblings had their own personal birthday celebrations. It wasn't until I turned 18 that I had my own birthday celebration. This was very hard and I often felt cheater. My brothers too felt this way on occasion. Give your children their own celebration. There is a big age difference between them and their are of different sexes. The theme, games and activities for one might not be right for the other.

If you feel that a combined party is needed then make sure that each feel special in their own way. Buy two small cakes to feed everyone instead of one big one or make cupcakes that you can decorate special for each child. Have a theme that would be special for both such as Disney party that he could celebrate his favorite character such as shrek and her too with the Disney princesses.

Answer 4

I have the same problem...I have done my older daughter and youngest sons birthdays the same day in the past. Like you I want to save $. However...This year my daughter is going to be 6 and she is in kindergarten and she has requested her own birthday with a couple of school friends. I have decided that I will honor my daughters wishes and have a very small party of me, my, husband, her, her 2 brothers, and her couple of school friends only, and make a cake. I plan to involve my youngest son by getting him a few cheap items that he can unwrap. Then I will have a larger party for my youngest son and her together with all our family. I plan to do it this way until my son starts school and gets some friends of his own, and then I will go to seperate partys all together. Good luck!!

Answer 5

You're going to be faced with the same situation every year from now on, so think hard about what precedent you want to set! If it were me, I'd have one big party for relatives & friends-of-family to celebrate both kids' birthdays. It's too much to expect everybody to make it to your house twice in a week.

But I'd also ask the 7-year-old if he'd like another party for just him & some same-age friends from school, with lots of kid games & such--and no baby sister! Maybe he'd love it, maybe he won't give a hoot--kids are all different, so ask him. Same thing when your daughter gets old enough to have a group of friends her own age--give her the option of having a party without big brother around.

Yep, I'm suggesting maybe two parties this year and possibly three parties in a few years. But there's no reason to go overboard and spend a lot of money on any of them.

Answer 6

Speaking as a person who grew up having to share a birthday with her baby brother, whose birthday was the day before mine, DON'T DO IT!

Your son won't like a 'baby' party, and for goodness sake, it's a first birthday! That's a huge milestone, and even though the baby won't remember it, she deserves a special day anyway. I would do them the weekend after each other.

Unless of course you have to take into account renting a place to have the party, and family driving for an hour or more to attend. I'd say in that case, it would be okay to blend them, just have two distinct themes, at opposite ends of the room, with a table against the middle of one wall, holding both cakes. That way, you can have a nice photo of each of them blowing out their candles together!

But I think you shouldn't get used to having those joint parties, especially since you've got a boy and a girl. If they were both the same gender, you could get away with it for longer, but your boy won't be happy with it for much longer before he begins to get embarrassed.

Answer 7

My son's and daughter's birthday are 5 days apart as well. He is 4 and she is 2. I got them separate cakes, goodies bags and made 2 themes for their birthday. My boy is into transportation so its car theme and my girl loves Elmo so its Sesame Street theme.

In your case, your son is 7 and he might want his friends to enjoy a boy's birthday. So what i might suggest is, have your daughter cut her cake and have her party in the morning and your son's COOL boy's party in the afternoon. Make each child feel special and pay attention to both of their needs. Let them make some decisions in the preparations and talk to them about what they expect to happen on that day.

I too will have to consider this as my children gets older. Friends and family can hang around and have their own fun. It will be great to spend time longer with people you love enjoy being around with.

Answer 8

Lukas is 20 months (birthday is 31st August) and haven't thought about it yet. We have second baby due this month and then moving house next month... so have a bit much taking up my brain right now! We planned his first birthday a couple of weeks before the day (picnic in the park with close friends) and his 2nd birthday will probably be a similar kind of thing... just at a new house with new friends!

Answer 9

Since your son is already going to be 7 I would say no. At that age the birthdays really start to be a big deal for them and they usually want their friends and their theme. Since the other is a girl that wouldn't go into a boys theme. You could talk to your son about it and see how he would feel about it though and he may be ok with it but most kids I know wouldn't be. Of course my cousin has his son and daughters party together up until this year but their birthdays are 2 days apart and they are only a year apart in age but this year at 13 and 12 they refused to do it together and hated it every other year.

Answer 10

I wouldn't do it. I have a 7 year old and also a 1 and a half year old. My daughter was sad at the baby shower and also at my son's birthday so for her we gave her a surprise birthday party for her big day and on my son's birthday we gave her a present too. I myself remember being sad that I had to celebrate with my brother for our June b-days it just didn't seem like I was as special I guess.