My mom wants to invite her best friend to my wedding..but?

Question

i don't like her family. She has a son-who is so annoying,and about my age. Even tho she is my godmother i don't talk to her anymore so i didn't send her an invatation. I purposely didn't send her one and told my mom i didn't have any left. My mom told her she could come. Even tho i don't want her to come especially her annoying kids. What you you do? Am i being mean and selfish? Did you have any one at your wedding you didn't want coming and your parents/brother/sister/etc. told them they could come??

I did tell my mom "no, i didn't want her there"but she already told her to come. I told my sisters to tell my mom if esp. her son is there i will tell him to leave-yeah its mean but MY WEDDING~

Answer 1

You should call the godmother up and tell her that contrary to what your mother told her she is NOT invited.

Then have a sit down foot down talk with your mother about inviting people you do NOT want to come.

If they still say she is coming, then you either need to deal with it, or have someone at the door with the guest list and refuse her entry.

Good luck. The godmother should realize if she doesn't have an invitation she is NOT invited. If she shows up she is being very rude and inconsiderate to the Guests of Honor (you and your fiance).

Answer 2

I am in the same situation except without the annoying kids. My mum really wants her friend to come. I just said yes her friend could come and her husband but none of her kids. This one friend is the only request she had made for a guest so I thought I would let her. I know it is your wedding and I think it is 100% your right to have people there or not. It was extremly rude of your mum to go behind your back and invite her. That is not ok. But it's too late to univite her as that would be rude. Maybe just say that your mum's friend and husband/partner can come but draw the line at her kids and put your foot down and say you agree to have her friend even though you didn't want her there but her kids are definately NOT to come and tell your mum it is not ok for her to do this again as it is YOUR wedding, NOT hers. Good luck!

Answer 3

Maybe you could talk to your mother and voice your concerns and compromise -- that this friend is allowed to come without her family, as you have already planned for a certain number and that would put you way over the limit. If you are paying for your wedding, this is only fair. After all it is your wedding. Believe me when my daughters both got married, they let me know exactly what they wanted and I was to take a back seat with the check book. Which I did.

Answer 4

I think you have to decide how big a problem this will create between your mom and yourself if you don't invite her. If your mom understands how you feel, then of course you don't need to invite her. If your mom is going to be seriously upset and it may even cause long-term problems, then it might be worth it just to invite her and be done with it. But I'd also have to wonder if having this woman there will cause you any problems - will she act in an embarrssing way (get drunk, be obnoxious, etc.?). If not, then I would just invite her for your mother's sake. In a perfect world, I think our mothers would just let us have this day to ourselves, but I know more people than not who had to invite someone they didn't want to in order to make family happy. As long as they don't really act in a horrible way at the wedding, then I think it'll just be easier on you.

Answer 5

My mom invited 145 people out of 150 guests. It was her privilege to do so, because she paid half for our wedding. She also told me that a wedding isn't just about the bride and the groom.. it is supposed to be a big event for the whole family. My mom and I had a great relationship and I could tell how excited she was about the whole wedding thing- more excited than I was,... so I let her go crazy with it.... she gave birth to me... without her, I wouldn't have been there to be married... (yes- that's how mature minded I was at 25).
Besides you will be so busy ... you wouldn't even really notice who will be present at your wedding.

Answer 6

The key thing is a detail you've omitted. Who's paying for the wedding?

If your parents are bankrolling it, they should have some say in invitees.

If you're funding your own wedding, you can look Mom in the eye and say "well, I guess you have a problem since I didn't invite her and I'm paying for this thing."

Answer 7

1st of all congrats 4 your wedding, look je lo wedding is a life time movement , 1ns come in whole life , this kind of movement never come in your life & your moms life also.for a mother har childs weding is the begest movement in har life, i can say coz i saw my mom on my weding, she was so happy, she want's to do all his wishes come true on that day , may be this is right that u don't want some 1 in that time, but your mom want, & honey this is your weding day let every 1 happy, allwes remember if u respect to some1 u don't like is the big thing, & on that time his or har hands also go up for blesings, & remember you need all the blesings for your happu merried life, & it gives your mom a diffrent type of happynes & sweet memoris also , & if thay ppl do something witch is u don't like let your mom hendal tham, mom know the best allwes, 1 more time best of luck 4 your happy merried life

Answer 8

It is NOT just YOUR wedding, weddings are for families, and for being respectful to your parents, especially. Parents need to be able to invite their friends, as well. You need to grow up - quick - before you get married...

Answer 9

Talk to your mom face to face. This is your wedding. She needs to respect your wishes and stop treating you as if you are still her little girl. Put your foot down. Good luck.

Answer 10

Let them come. Your mom wants them there. On your wedding day you are in your own world and don't eve notice who is there or not there. You probably won't even say two words to them.