i've been intimate with a really good guy friend of mine for the past few weeks... it was never agreed on as friends with benefits, but thats what i thot it was. now... i'm really starting to fall for him. he is the sweetest, nicest, funniest, most down-to-earth guy i've ever met, and i think i'm really interested in him.
his ma knows how much i like him and says that i should just say something to him. but i'm so scard that i'll tell him how much i like him and that i'd rather date him then just be "extra special friends".
should i tell him and risk him rejecting me all together and then i won't have anything to do with him anymore (although it could be that he shares those feelings and that he likes me too). i'm just not sure...
should i say something? would u (as a guy) want a girl to tell u how she feels? and how should i bring it up?
2007-09-10 18:28:20 · 7 answers · asked by Proud mommy of Logan! <3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this guy "friend" of mine is almost 27, and i'm 20.... so he's not immature, and neither am i... we'd been friends about 6 months b4 we hooked up...
2007-09-10 18:34:21 · update #1
Sure, the best relationships start off as friendships. But don't jump in with both feet. Friendship does involve trusting another and you don't want to destroy that or take advantage of that trust.
Be a little subtle and if you are really friends then you will accept a "no." You will still want him as a friend and he you.
Give him an easy way out on one hand but on the other don't be afraid to explore the possibility.
I disagree somewhat with the other answers, putting all your feelings out there is taking advantage of his trust in you and puts him in an awkward situation.
If his Mom is urging you on makes things a little difficult for both of you. Guys could be totally in love with someone but if Mom says she likes her it can be a red flag to some guys -- he may be under pressure to get married and settle down which I guarantee he resents.
So explore the issue slowly and let him know a little bit at a time how you feel about him. He will either tell you he feels the same thing eventually or he will give clear signals that he does not want a relationship.
2007-09-10 19:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If He's down to earth like you say he is you might tell him how you feel. I've never known too many good guys that would get upset about knowing what your feeling. I am amazed by the way women can do the most intimate of things and not want the other person to know how you feel. His mother is right , She knows him and she wouldn't do anything to hurt either one of you. Most Good Guys are not the ones that run like hell when a woman feels something for him. If you have this in the back of your mind and your with him your going to act differently and he will notice, so remember, Faint heart never won fair lady, and It doesn't get you a good guy either.
2007-09-11 01:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert on relationships but, I have always found it better to be straight up with the person you have feelings for. You may find out this person feels the same as you! If this person is your true friend, he will sill be in your life as someone you can always turn to! Talk to him, tell him how you feel. If he walks, then he wasn't a true friend to begin with!
I hope things work out for you!
Remember though! He is a small fish in a big pond!
go for broke!
2007-09-11 01:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
great people do not come along every day that attracts us to them in a big way.
those that make us laugh are scarce when they are of clean humor.
go hot tubing and wear a sexy swim suit.
If he is not some real nice dud--and has normal male blood, ------WHAT---is it girls don't understand?
Is he hot or not? If he is not hot, enjoy his humor.
But tell him the way you feel in just a very few words.
Hint--there is this really great movie---there is a big car race this week end and you would like to go---find out what he super likes and go do it together.
2007-09-11 01:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would love to hear it!
However,this guy may be young and immature,and may well run a mile if you are totally open with him!
Only you can decide whether or not to reveal your feelings-Just choose the time and place to your own benefit!
Hope it works out!
2007-09-11 01:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is a lucky guy. Give it a bit of time and you will know if it is reciprocal or not. FInd some reason to be away and see if he calls you. That is a good first sign, at least in my book.
2007-09-11 01:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't there are many good guys out there but there aren't that many goo and loyal friends. so why risk your friend ship when you could date come one two times as cute and to times better for you. so STAY FRIENDS
2007-09-11 01:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by kingofglamis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋