I refuse to watch my pregnant girlfriend deliver our child. I won't be able to look at her the same if I was in the room.
SO HERE'S MY QUESTION: Do you think its ok for me to wait in the hallway?
2007-09-10 16:56:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you need to talk to her. I would be super pissed if my boyfriend didn't want to be in the room with me. you dont have to be at that end, stay up by her head. if you dont go in there you will be missing out on an amazing experience.
2007-09-11 02:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you would not want to witness the birth of your child. It is a wonderful experience and you should be there for her. I do however understand how you feel, lol wondering how your gonna ever be able to fill that again, hehehe my husband felt the same way. But he stood by me through all 3 of our children's births. you would be missing out on the miracle of life if you waited in the hallway. How about you stay by her head and concentrate on her and not watch the baby arrive. But if it bothers you that much talk to her, and see how she feels... If she doesn't seem bothered by you not being with her when she needs you most, then I see no problem with you waiting in the hall. i know I would have kicked my husband's A** if he wasn't in the room. Good luck and congrats on being a Daddy!!!
2007-09-11 03:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, that's not okay. You need to be willing to help her through labor and be there when your child is born. It's called being a loving and supportive partner. Gosh, I mean, you had no problem making the baby with her but you're not willing to see this through to the end with her? Why would you have a problem with seeing her the same? She will not have changed physically. Does this mean you will see her differently now that she is the mother of your child? Please, be there for her; your love for her will only grow and the bond with your child will be strong. My husband wouldn't have missed it for the world. You don't have to "see" anything, just hold her hand and let her tell you what she needs from you. Did you go through birthing classes or parenting classes with her? If not, go to parenting classes together. You 2 are in this together for the long haul. Even if you 2 don't stay together for the long haul, that child will be yours forever.
2007-09-10 18:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are coming on here to ask, then you must already suspect that it might not be ok....
Thing is... you aren't just in the delivery room for her... you are in the delivery room to watch YOUR baby come into this world. Whether you look at the delivery, is up to you. Some men have a hard time watching (they fear that they might faint). But, the point being, that you are IN THE room and a part of YOUR baby's birth.
To answer your own question, you'll need to ask your self a couple of things..... 1) Will I regret not being there, later?? 2) What is the real reason I don't want to be in there? Is it a selfish reason? Is it fear? ....
2007-09-11 02:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Granny PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants you there, BE THERE for her!!! Labor is a scary thing and for you to make her do that alone might show her you are not committed to being an equal parental figure. Especially since you aren't married, that choice might have more consequences than you think. You can stay by her head and not watch all the messy stuff. But I do agree that you might see her differently after you see how tough labor is and how strong she was to handle it.
Help her have your baby!
2007-09-10 19:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by monica_mclane 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think i know how you sort of feel coz my husband is worried too, but if your girlfriend is ok with u being in the hallway then yeah its ok, but i reckon she's gonna want u in there! You don't actually have to watch... look at her, hold her hand and be there for her, if thats what she wants.
My husbands agreed to be in there with me but doesn't want to look or cut the cord which is fine but i'm gonna need him there for support! And i also think that if your not in there you'll be wondering back and forth wondering whats happening etc and you'll later regret not being there when your child is born!
Anyway good luck!
2007-09-10 17:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to discuss it with your girlfriend. I personally had my husband there for support, but if your partner agrees, then sure, it would be fine to wait in the hallway. If she doesnt, then, go in with her, you dont have to stand at the "business end" (as it were lol) just stand at the top end of the bed to hold her hand and let her bite yours!!!!!! good luck xx
2007-09-13 06:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be something you need to talk about with her.
How does she feel about your request?
I personally wanted to be left alone during labor, and I wanted the room quiet. I actually made everyone leave!
I did not know how i was going to feel about labor until it actually happened. I did not want anyone in the room but the Dr/nurse, and my SO. But with the amount of pain i was in, he could have been golfing and i would not have cared!
2007-09-10 17:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by here2adoreyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you might want to talk about this with your girlfriend?
have you though this through properly? this is your child,do you really not want to see it born? have you actually ever seen a baby being born? why wont you be able to look at her the same? its natural and i think she'll need your support!
grow up
2007-09-10 23:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by Damien, Poppie & Alexis' mum 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be there with her. I know i wouldn't want to be in there alone without someone there to help and support me through it. I think it would be rude of you to ask your girlfriend if it was ok that you didn't go in. It sounds kinda selfish. I think you should be there to support her, After all it takes two to tango. And sorry i dont mean to sound rude. :-) I just think she would really want you there, and why wouldn't you want to be there to watch your baby born?
2007-09-10 17:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋