My sister and her boyfriend broke up recently. and my sisters boyfriend told me a bunch of stuff about why they broke up and who he dumped her for. Anyhow should I tell my sis about this stuff I know?
on one hand he told me not to tell, but on the other she should know about this stuff.
What should I do?
2007-09-10 16:53:27 · 24 answers · asked by Jeff J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well for starters you should og told us what kind of **** he talked about your sister. Secondly if it is bad enough dirt then tell your sister. If you feel in your gut that you have to tell her then it is most likely what you will do.She is your sister after all and guys come and go, but she will be there for life. So if it is really bad **** then tell her,so she can chew him out. Or if it is dumb senseless stuff b/c he is hurt, then dont bother to tell your sister at all. To be honest I think that he told you those things, so that he has a way to get those words or thoughts to her b/c they are no longer talking of course. So if it feels right to tell her then do and if you are unsure then dont at all.
2007-09-10 17:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Miss Lis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, since it hasn't been very long since they broke up and he dumped her, she may be in some pain about it and it could last a while depending on how hung up on him she may have been. Now, if this is the case, she doesn't need more bad news to have grief about right now.
I know your trying real hard to be the good brother that you are. I have a lil' sis myself so I understand your loyality and all but just consider her feelings for a while. You don't want to throw gasoline on the fire.
Here is what I would do. Wait for six months or so to see if there's a chance that they will get back together. If there seems to be a danger of that, then I would tell her straight away, just so that she has the information to use before she makes a decision to go back with him.
If it seems as if they will not get back together, and if you feel that you just can't keep it in, then you could tell her after everything calms way down and there is much less chance of her feelings getting all knotted up and all that jazz.
Sometimes there are just some things that we would rather not know.
Best Wishes
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2007-09-10 17:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you know more your sister than her ex, so, whatever he want to said after, well that's no one business but your sister and him when they were a couple, now that's only poison, if whatever he want so said at her back is good, good, if not... well that show how nice gentleman your sister get rid off...
As a brother, be sensitive... what would you do if someone said something bad of someone in your family????????????? First of all, those kind of commentaries don't go just out of the blue, so if you were friends well, those kind of stuff you don't share just because of respect, but if the guy just came to you to said those things about your sister... well I don't know how you didn't stop right away?
Nobody should feel entitle to be talking crap of no one.... that's how gossip goes and comes...
What do you think a sensitive brother should do?
2007-09-10 17:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Dragonheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they broke up, then i'd say no, dont tell her. How would it help anything? And it really isnt your business anyhow. Let this one go. I kno you want to help your sister, but will it help, really? The only time it would is if they were gonna get back together, then i would think about telling her.
2007-09-10 17:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If knowing will be therapeutic for your sis, then go ahead and spill the beans. Otherwise, let it go. It's just not important, and won't change a thing (unless you're the one he dumped her for).
Unless you're in 8th grade or something, then of course you'll tell your sister.
2007-09-10 16:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your in a tight situation.. you could either lose your trust with him an also help your sister out some ... or gain your trust with him an hope that your sister don't find out because she might get really mad that you didn't tell her any of it! if i was you i would pick telling my sister!! remember blood is thicker than water!! your sister will always be there... that guy... who knows!
2007-09-10 17:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and sis are close, like best friends close, then tell her.
But if you're just bro and sis, and you're closer to the ex b/f then don't even start more drama.
Or better yet, don't even start more drama. Just let her get over him. They're broken up right? So it doesn't even matter anymore, let her move on.
2007-09-10 16:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water, of course you should tell her! This guy sounds like a real jerk and your sister will love you all the more for having her back! Good luck!
2007-09-10 16:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell your sister anything her X-boyfriend has to say. It will only upset her! AND tell the X-boyfriend you don't want him to tell you anything about your sister. Tell him to SHUT-UP!
2007-09-10 17:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were you and your boyfriend told your sister that same stuff...you have to ask yourself..."would you want to know"?
2007-09-10 17:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by ANewLife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋