We are planning a very small wedding with less than 35 guests. Only family and about 10 close friends. My fiance is inviting a friend who has a girlfriend and will have a baby with her by the time of our wedding.
The girlfriend went to the same high school we all went to but we only knew her name and weren't friends with her. We have never met her formally or spent time with them together- do we need to include her in the invitation our wedding is very small and on a tight budget?
2007-09-10 16:20:32 · 11 answers · asked by CarolinaAngel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We are inviting other guests with their husbands and one with a boyfriend whom we have both met and also spent time with.
2007-09-10 16:36:56 · update #1
Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding! This is a hard one.
I think I would suck it up (financially) and invite her. The reason being....if you did invite others with "and guest", as you mentioned, a friend bringing her boyfriend....then it's only fair that your husband's friend should bring his girlfriend. I do understand the other couple (you say you have spent time with her AND her boyfriend), but your husband's friend doesn't know that? Since it's such a small wedding, I think he would feel uncomfortable being singled out without a "date." I would go ahead and invite both of them, but make sure she doesn't bring the baby too!
2007-09-10 16:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, definitely not. And if you feel weird about it at all, you can tell your fiance to talk to his friend and explain. Besides if this girl is having a baby around that time, she might even be too tired to come or otherwise not want to leave the baby with the sitter. She would probably even be uncomfortable there, since she won't know anyone (except her boyfriend).
I was dating my boyfriend (now husband) for 4 years when his cousin got married. I knew him pretty well, but I wasn't hurt at all that I wasn't invited.
Weddings get so expensive and tend to "snowball". If you invite this person, that you have to invite the rest of the group and so on. That's what happened to us :)
And don't forget it's YOUR wedding. Do whatever you and your fiance want to do and people should understand.
2007-09-10 16:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by ME 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you invite someone to a wedding, you should invite their husband/wife, too. You should also invite their fiance(e), if they're engaged.
If a couple is living together or is in a serious relationship (say more than 6-12 months), then the partner is invited. You don't have to invite Joey's flavor of the week, if it's obviously not a serious relationship.
So ... yes, I would invite the girlfriend. It's the right thing to do. Find another place to cut back so you can accommodate her.
2007-09-10 16:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People who are married or engaged are always issued joint invitations. In more progressive circles, the darn near married (live togethers) are also invited jointly. How well you know "the other half" of a couple is irrelevant; all that matters is whether or not to regard them as a couple.
One would be very strict (no ring = no bring) indeed to NOT recognize as a couple any adult pair starting a family of their own. Your options are (1) be very strict and invite only the gentleman, probably creating ill-will (2) invite both (3) invite neither.
The rule applies to couples only, not to their children. No need to allow an infant to attend your event.
2007-09-11 01:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it depends on how you invited other friends. Did you say yes to other friends bringing a date? Your friend may get offended if other friends can bring a date, but if he is not allowed to bring his girlfriend. If you are inviting everyone personally, then I don't see a problem not inviting the girlfriend. If questions come up, explain that it is supposed to be close friends only and you are on a tight budget. If your friend is a good friend, he should understand.
2007-09-10 16:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Aslade Averyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want the friend there, and he's not in the wedding party, it seems good manners to allow him to bring a guest so he will have some company during the reception and such. You wouldn't expect him to come alone and not really be able to dance with anyone, would you? Plus, should they become married and become a "couple friend" you might come to regret not having included her in your special day. Bottom line, I think all or none is the best manners.
2007-09-10 16:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should invite her. How would you feel if your fiance was invited to a wedding but you weren't included.
2007-09-11 12:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want her to come along, go ahead and put "and guest".
If you only want the friend to attend, do not put "and guest".
If you are on a tight budget your friend will understand.
2007-09-11 01:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no, you don't. Its your wedding invite whom you wish. Just write his name on the invite and don't add "and guest."
2007-09-10 16:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by pestross 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should include her but not the baby
2007-09-10 17:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋