I've been really shy & have had some slight depression/social anxiety forever...comes from a history of overbearing, perfectionist parents who are highly accomplished & nearly impossible to live up to.
All that aside, I don't think I'm beautiful, but don't think I'm ugly. I've never had a b/f & I'm 21. Given that I've always been shy (& have recently been putting A LOT of effort into breaking out of the metaphorical "shell"), I still don't have a lot of friends and I'm obviously not the "clubbing" type (I'm pre-med).
How do I meet worthwhile guys? How about just good-looking guys who can be in a casual relationship (no, I don't mean sex)? Guys NEVER approach me...ok, well some do but they're usually *under* my league/the kind of guys who would never dream of approaching even ave-looking girls, yet think they have a chance w/ me b/c I'm shy. It kills my confidence...
I wanna meet a great guy, but I have like 5 friends or something....plus I don't wanna be the one to ask...
2007-09-10 16:13:58 · 7 answers · asked by abby j 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I WILL NOT TRY INTERNET DATING
lol
No, I'm not closed-minded, but I've seen friends try it-eek! lots of messed-up weirdos out there! seriously-!
2007-09-10 16:27:43 · update #1
u will meet a guy just dont give up and try to be more outgoing just talk about simple common things. ur friends can help hook u up with someone for a date. u can go on dating sites or friend sites to look for friends. just first try to find friends then work on it so it can develop to something more. dont worry just try ur best to be talkative. talk about little common everyday things, ask about their interests, when u dont have something to talk about just smile or laugh it helps.
2007-09-10 16:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Though I am not a fan of net dating, I know it works for some. People that are shy have a very hard time in this world of fads and fashion. The best thing is to know who you are. This sounds like an easy thing, but much like discovering the meaning of life, the deeper you go, the harder the question is to answer. Know who you are and being confident in that will get you further than anything else.
I am older than you and I still struggle with getting others to see me as available and not just a friend. I have some of the best friends that are ladies a guy could have, but beyond that, there is little. Breaking out of you shell is obviously easier said than done, and I am sure you have already figured that out. Keep your chin up. Sometimes the best things happen to those that just let loose and let their hair down. Relax and let your inner child out once in a while.
For whatever it is worth, I wish you the best of luck. your day will come, and because you are not inundated in it, it will mean more to you than all of those others around you that take it for granted.
2007-09-10 23:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. As a guy, I have the exact same shyness myself. There worst thing is that I feel that I am getting older (25.) I tried eharmony.com and I met a lot wierdos on there. I think the problem is that a lot of guys feel shy about asking out any kind of girl. I think another problem is that people have a full time job and go to school at the same time, so there is the social problem. I hope that you get some great insight, as it may help me out.
2007-09-10 23:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by R_Mev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Church and focus on Jesus and have a personal relationship with him. Once you do that everything will fall into place
Internet dating is the worst thing you can do. I did it for 7 years and nothing but a meat market and scammers.
2007-09-10 23:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by conny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Internet dating works very well... if you invest the time to make it work and are patient until it does work. Dr. Phil say's it takes about six months. But it does work. It is how I met my girl friend of two years.
2007-09-10 23:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
go big or go home... can't want something and not try to go get it... step up and ask a guy... trust me they might say yes...
2007-09-10 23:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by GodSmack 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried eharmony.com?
2007-09-10 23:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋