How can you really help me?

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Right noe I feel like I have lost whatever purpose in life. Go ahead and give stupid answers if it makes you happy. I try to do the right things. I am not perfect but i am tired of always being the one that is not thought about or need i say that i would like to have someone that cares about me, my needs, and can let go of my faults, which are stupid, such as why i,m not home to fic dinner on time. The thing is that unless you have a bloody nose or bruises the verbal abuse doesnt count in the cops in their immaculate uniforms. It has been over 30 years and does anyone really care because I have just about stopped caring myself. I do not know where to turn or what to do. The doctors donot have all the answers just the money. does anyone really care or maybe the answer is not there. Thanks anyway.

Just for your information, I am not rambling. I am tired. I would like to see positive reinforcements for what i do accomplish in life. not particularly a pat on the back but that would be good for a change, I do live with depression and sometimes i just get tired or no meds that help and all the things such as ects, medicine that has not helped therefor it is called treatment resistent depression. I would really like to have someone that understands and possibly give an idea of how to get through the red tape and have my insurance company approve the vagal nerve stimulator, It has been approved bt the FDA but the New England Journal of medicine is doing a good job in helping the bc/bs of alababa to deny it. And yes even people that are strong and try to help others need a little word of encourangement and also a pity party if thats what gets me through. Any answers for approval of bc/bs of alabama please will free to help.

Answer 1

First of all, here's a big HugG. We all do care! Then, stop blaming others for not caring which is not true..sometimes we ourselves make people think we are brave, confident and able to take of ourselves and others too....Take charge...see where all this came from....go back and take a look at the beginning.....

We are the ones who will open the gates of heaven. If only you would take a grip and tell yourself, here is my chance of proving that I can and will take care of my well-being, mentally, physically and spiritually........start with deep breathing and there on calm down and then you will go and take a shower and put on a fragrant cream....feel better....and think how you want the situation to be...

Be well and let us know your progress.. Lurv...
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Answer 2

I don't think she's rambling, RN...she's talking about an abusive family context, with abuse triggered by the simplest issues such as fixing dinner..and about how the police may not have reacted, since the verbal abuse didn't leave marks:(
Please correct me if I didn't understanf well.

I am very sorry that for 30 years things have been like this:(
If possible, go to a priest, to church and have an honest, all out discussion about this. In a time of great need in my family, I have practically run to a church...I needed to heal my soul and was determined to find some relief...I asked for advice from God, prayed on my own too, on and on...until I was given some inner peace and perspective and calmness. A priest (maybe an old one...someone that you could feel at ease to talk to) would offer another perspective, would allow you to pour your heart and soul out (and he would listen to you and maybe give you sound advice).

Yes there are people that care.

Get out of the house and do some things for yourself! Walk, run, jogg, join a gym. Maybe take a weekend vacation in a nice place???? Sounds weird but putting some space in between you and your problems for a few days I think may help. Join a support group or message board..I'm sure there are, related to the same issue you're describing (probably need to do a google search for your city).

Answer 3

probably she felt shy. I don't forget in the course of my tuition day, a brand new man i used to speak in school requested me for a hangout, i used to be so shy and so embarrassed that i thought some thing else and stated no. All I can say is ask her out as soon as once more. Only while you ask her,you're going to get readability. Clarity of what? That she likes you or now not. If she likes then you definitely she gonna grasp with you, if now not then u can transfer on. No ought to chase unavailable folks after making an attempt as soon as. You favored her final semester... Its alright to believe for a lady for greater than a 12 months. I too feel of my ex . Trust me, u suppose that most effective this woman recognize s you higher, this isn't actual. At that point you had been a further man. This 12 months you're specific. Everyone alterations. So do not be clingy or heartbroken if she rejects you. Because many times being rejected is the exceptional factor occurred to us. Please reply mine.

Answer 4

I have been where you are, and I do care. Verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse, I sometimes think, because it's easy for other people to overlook - as you say, no bruises and no bloody nose, but words DO hurt.

I don't know your situation, but I know what I did. I found a counselor, and started going to see her on a regular basis. She helped me to build up my self-esteem, and to see myself as a person who had some control over my life. It's not easy, and it takes time; it may even take years, but it's worth doing. Medication is fine, but it's only a band-aid; finding out what's really going on in your life, and figuring out a way to do something about it is hugely empowering. If I can do it, so can you. I urge you to get into counseling as soon as possible. If you can't afford it, there are clinics that work on a sliding scale based on what you can pay; universities also have clinics in which their graduate degree candidates do their practical work, and those are often VERY inexpensive.

Please get help; it's not too late, and there ARE good people who care.

Answer 5

So you're lonely and no one cares about you and you don't care either. Sounds very depressing indeed. I suggest you read the book called "Real Magic" by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. He teaches you how to achieve happiness, health, success and prosperity in daily life through positive thinking and action. Perhaps you can find some good ideas on how to better cope with life. Good luck!

Answer 6

I care. I don't know who you are, and have only a faint hint on your situation, but I care about you.

Answer 7

you are rambling and it is somewhat difficult to know what you are asking, it is obvious that you are terribly unhappy, and something can indeed be done about that. It would be helpful if you could organize your thoughts and be a little clearer about what is making you so unhappy.

Answer 8

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