my grandma has cancer?

Question

i found out the other day, its stage 4 and idk what to do to help her or my mom get through it

Answer 1

this is pretty serious. spend time with them.... tell them you love them... talk to them and let them talk, be a good listener.

pray. pray a lot.

Answer 2

I treat cancer for a living. The best thing you can do is be supportive. Be there for your Mom, cut her some slack, she may be touchy and moody.

Be there for your Grandma too. Hang out with her, talk about times past, but don't act like its the last conversation you'll ever have. I did this when my Grandma died of cancer, we had one day when it was just her and I in the hospital, talking, and hanging out. It was great, I hold that memory in my heart as being so special.

Prepare Yourself: There will be many ups and downs. Times you think grandma is going to pass on and then she'll get better to the point you think she is going home. Listen to the doctor, listen to your heart, but be a realist. If things look like they are going bad, they probably are, but the opposite is true.

Be strong. Feel free to ask me questions.

Answer 3

I'm sorry both for her and to hear that you have to go through this.

Keep an eye on your Mom, especially if she has her mother at home. Being a primary caregiver like that is incredibly exhausting. My mother was a terminal NHL patient at home.

Other than being there for her and helping out where you can there isn't much you can do. Give yourself permission to feel overwhelmed.

My sister is a psychologist. Works at Mass. Gen, taught at Harvard Med, even edited one of the text books. I'm reasonably erudite and do a fair amount of writing. Still between the two of us we could only come up with one phrase to describe cancer and the fallout - "It just sucks".

Good luck kid.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry about your Grandma. The best thing that you can do is just be there. Be supportive. I know how it is because I was there when my Dad had cancer....trust me, just be there.....your family needs your support and inturn, you will get support from your family. Spend time with Grandma and tell her you love her. Do the same for your Mom. Pray. Have no regrets.

Answer 5

Read this entire article, and trust me, your gramma will live to tell the story, I hope and pray your granma will recover, The best flax oil is Berleans from wild oats markets 100% organic and the cottage chesse really doesn't matter if its light or regular, but this has to be a diet for ever, and forget about sugar, but read the article and just type on yahoo or google "flax oil and cottage chesse" about Dr budwig.

That will save your gramma's life Drs dont believe in this but people who wants to live does, and its all natural
God be with your granma, and don't just give up, give this to her every morning half an hour before breackfast and afternoon half hour before dinner.
Good luck!
http://www.cancure.org/budwig_diet.htm

Answer 6

The thing I'd advise most is be there for her. Hold her hand listen to what she has to say. Even though it doesn't sound like much it will mean a lot to her. Being a cancer survivor. People couldn't take away my pain but talking and writing were my escapes. Support her and be there.

Answer 7

I am grandma age and what I would love is for you to share memories of the good times with her, that healing loving feeling can do miracles. Of course you can do real things, but for your grandma, your love for her, spoken in real ways the way you remember it as a kid will bless her hugely.

Answer 8

wow it will be hard my best advice is to be their for them make your grandmas last memories the best.love is the greatest thing of all

Answer 9

just be there for her, and help her to be the happiest she can be. stage 4 is pretty bad.