My fiance and I are paying for everything and hence we are on a strict budget. If we give a final head count and more people actually show up than expected, we will be charged by the end of the night by the country club. I'm concerned because there are old college friends of my fiance who show up to events uninvited because they consider it an occasion of "free food and booze" and get trashed. He has already talked to some of his friends about how we don't want to get screwed over with extra costs, but I have a feeling that many people will still try. Any suggestions or tips?
2007-09-10 15:10:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I should add that my fiance has talked to his closer friends (who are in the wedding party, etc.) about how he doesn't want our wedding "crashed" by their acquaintances from their old frat, etc. These are people who just consider themselves a part of any festivity thrown by a fellow frat brother, etc. Real annoying *****.
2007-09-10 15:13:16 · update #1
Ah, the frat brothers! How they can get on your nerves!
This is a tough one. Which means it may require you to get tough too! If you really don't want these guys crashing I suggest one of these solutions:
1. Hire a security guard or two (in the form of off duty cops; they are always looking for extra money, trust me!), give them pictures of these guys and post them at the doors. Also give your coordinator pics & post her there as well. If they show, they are escorted away.
2. Make place cards with all the RSVP'd guests' names and place them on a table by the door (still post someone there; but this time make it someone who knows these guys so they can't just take a card with someone else's name on it.
3. Make a master list and have your coordinator and other trusted friends or family members posted at the door checking off names. As the names are checked off, give the guests their favors.
These are ideas to keep them from getting in at all! You don't really want to wait until they are already sitting down and eating and making a scene! Just keep them out !
Good Luck!
2007-09-10 16:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by valschmal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I presume it is too past due not to allow them to understand in which/while the marriage ceremony is? At the church, you would have individuals exhibit their invites to go into, if that is no longer feasable, ensure your ushers understand who's NOT invited. If the uninvited individuals exhibit up, have the ushers allow them to understand to thrill go away, and if they don't comply, the police will likely be referred to as (if this isn't an empty chance you're going to most probably no longer must deliver by way of with it, such a lot individuals do not desire to be arrested). If you may have a reception website that has "employees" they may be able to act as bouncers if the uninvited visitors exhibit up. If there's no one, once more, your ushers (or any appointed visitors) can inform the crashers to thrill go away or the police will likely be referred to as. The police WILL eliminate individuals if required.
2016-09-05 09:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by besecker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a security guy for a few hours, give him a list of those guests that have RSVP'd and block the ones that are not on the list and are just trying to crash the party.
Or, talk to the site and see what can be worked out, if you are up for police to show up to kick them out try that as well.
Sounds like his "friends" aren't really friends at all.
2007-09-11 01:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can ask that people bring their invites with them to get into the reception, then also have a guest list at the front with their names on it (in case they forget the invite) and only people with their name on the list get into the reception. (the reason I say have them bring the invite if they can is so that these people cant try and give the name of someone they know on the list to get in) this is probably your best bet if you think they might show. your other option is to hire security if you can afford that.
2007-09-10 15:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you give a guest list to your reception site and have them check people off, or have someone stand by the place card table. Let them know that univited guests should be escorted out. Also if your groomsmen are on the lookout they can alert the reception hall manager to escort out any univited guests.
Good luck!
2007-09-10 15:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Reba 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the local police department and get one or two retired officers to act as guards.
If you're not on the list, you can't come in.
They usually do it for a donation.
2007-09-10 15:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Can you say SURCURITIE!!!
2007-09-10 19:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by dwaindaddy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋