My wedding is in less than 4 weeks! What do I do?!?!?! I am freaking out!!
2007-09-10 15:03:06 · 13 answers · asked by mrs.dennis.10.6.07 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Her and her husband just decided to split up.
2007-09-10 15:45:35 · update #1
Ok, she is my cousin and this isn't the first time the decided to split. She should have backed out months ago when it was so bad between them. I feel bad for her, but I am dealing with this wedding on my own and this is a lot to deal with this close to the wedding. I'm not worried about an odd number in the bridal party either. That's not a big deal.
2007-09-10 16:19:22 · update #2
Stop freaking out you don't have time to do this. You need to find a replacement with a clear mind. How about your mom or sister or another friend or cousin maybe an aunt or niece or maybe someone from your job you're close with? Don't worry you'll find a maid of honor before you know it ! Just stay focused on who else you might want. FREAKOUT after the wedding. Good Luck and congratulations!!
2007-09-10 15:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You pick one of the other girls to hold the big boquet and be "maid of honor" and move on. Or, you can ask her why she backed out. Was it a money problem, where you a bridezilla and pushed her out? Perhaps the issue can still be resolved.
You can't ask one of the groomsmen to back out to even up numbers. They have put just as much time and effort into the festivites as the bridesmaids have and it's just rude to expect them to chuck all that at the last minute.
The attendants don't have to be perfectly matched and if they aren't and you are that worried have one of them carry the supplies for the unity candle/sand ceremony on a nice tray or in a pretty box up to the alter instead of having an escort and it will look intentional.
2007-09-10 15:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not sure my your cousin isn't going through with the wedding just because she's splitting up from her husband. Her obligation is to you and you certainly don't need the stress of this right now.
You could ask another girlfriend, upgrade one of your other bridesmaids (although I would hesitate to do this unless you think all would understand why they weren't being asked), ask a sister, future sister-in-law or maybe even your mother. I'd ask my mother personally. Don't stress out over this, your day will be beautiful and what matters is you and your husband.
I just read another girls reply, I like the idea of picking numbers for an upgrade of another bridesmaid, that's a great idea.
2007-09-10 17:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mellie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it ... you don't need a Matron of Honor to get married. It's seriously not a big deal, so chill out.
Just have another bridesmaid sign the certificate as your witness. And if this means that you now have an uneven bridal party, all it means is that one lucky girl gets two escorts. Your photographer will arrange everyone nicely for the photos. No fuss, no muss.
And honestly, I would stop worrying about your wedding party and start worrying about your FRIEND. Her marriage just ended, for Pete's sake. That's entirely more sad than having a bridesmaid back out. Be there for her and support her - she's your friend, not just your Matron of Honor. You picked her as MOH for a reason, right? So return the favor and be her support system when she needs it the most.
2007-09-10 16:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Just because she split up with her husband does not mean she had to back out of her role! She still could have been your MOH. Ask your next closest bridesmaid to be MOH and find someone else (friend or relative) if you want to fill in the gap or else don't worry about replacing her, it doesn't really matter. Good luck and don't stress, you will still have a gorgeous wedding!
2007-09-10 22:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't freak out, just have one of your bridesmaids step in. You do not have to have an even nmber of bridesmaids and groomsmen, so don't worry about that. I am sure one of your bridesmaids will be happy to help out.
I'm sorry she backed out I can't imagine why someone would back out of a commitment like that, but try not to stress your wedding day will happen with or without any bridesmaids!! The important thing is celebrating your wedding and marriage! Good luck!
2007-09-10 15:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off, chill out for a second. the wedding will go on with or without her wont it. your not marrying her so its not a huge problem. you can also ask someone to step up or put in someone else if you want an even number. if you have her dress then you can pick someone who will hopefully fit her size or put the new girl in another dress...the MOH can be in something different then the rest of the girls. other then that just relax and be happy your going to marry the man of your dreams.
2007-09-10 15:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, stop freaking out! Promote one of your bridesmaids to MOH. No need to pick another bridesmaid to even out the number, but you can if that concerns you. Also, as someone else pointed out, you don't even need a MOH.
2007-09-10 16:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know why, find out why. And try to fix it, fast. If she refuses, have another girl step up and do it. Your other bridesmaids should already have their dresses. Now, all you have to do is change the name next to "maid or matron of honor" on your program. Good luck!
2007-09-10 15:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's too bad! I'm really sorry that she backed out. :(
But you don't have to have a maid or matron of honour. You can just list your bride's maids' names in your program. My brother's fiance has no maid of honour because she couldn't choose, so it's okay!
2007-09-10 15:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋