i hate my life. everything in it is horrible. i have been beaten, raped, abused, neglected. I am currently living with an uwanting family who hates every breath i take and my 2 children in 1 room. i cant take it anymore. i try to help my kids by eating organic and taking good care of them, but everything ido according to everyone around me is wrong. i dont work enough hours to get out of here, and i am on welfare already. also if i get a full time job then i have to get daycare and i wont recieve benefits anymore and all my money will go to daycare and therefore i still wont be able to get out of here. my car is messed up and ih ave no place to go, no friends and no loving family near by. i'm trapped in this cell and i want to die. i'm just worried about my kids, i want them to have the best. i even thought about putting them up for adoption but their dads would get them and they are worse than this. somebody help me please. i dont know what to do anymore.
2007-09-10 14:28:34 · 13 answers · asked by sarah83mae 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know life can be tough & full of challenges, I've been there too. Sometimes waiting & trying to make life better can be mentally tough on a person.
You will need to try to focus on anything positive in life to make it though this rough road in life.
Remember this temporary rough road in life is temporary.
You can make it & you will reach your goal, it will take time, you can do it.
Posting this question shows me that you obviously care a lot about your life.
2007-09-10 16:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Digital One 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first go to a homeless shelter and apply for section 8. if you're homeless with children they'll put you at the top of the list for housing. i sure that social services has daycare voucher or other daycare assistance programs. Second you need to learn how to relax. Third surround yourself with positive people. join a single mothers support group.
Try some of these tips to help you relax
Breathe deeply and slowly.
Relax your body and your mind like this:
Lie down or sit in a comfortable position.
Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
Tighten your feet and toes, hold them tight for three seconds, then relax them. Repeat this exercise with your leg muscles, your stomach and your arms and shoulders.
Think about something relaxing, perhaps lying in the shade of a tree on a hot day â€Â¦ a gentle breeze brushes your skin â€Â¦ the leaves rustle quietly â€Â¦ nothing to do just now but close your eyes and let your mind drift â€Â¦
When you are relaxed and ready, open your eyes and bring the good feelings with you.
Ask a friend for a neck and shoulder massage.
Make a change in your routine.
Get up earlier, and go for a morning walk, or sit in a different place for breakfast.
Choose a different chair to watch TV, and eat some sugarfree popcorn or chewing gum.
Have a pen and paper by the phone so you can doodle, or move around while you are talking.
Take a soft rubber ball in the car, and do hand exercises if you are stuck in traffic.
Reduce or go off alcohol for a while and try a soft drink instead.
Exercise. This can be as simple as getting off the bus one stop early and walking the extra distance or using stairs instead of lifts
2007-09-10 22:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear you've ben going through so much.
Please don't let whatever the "unwanting family" says get to you. You say they hate every breath that you take and that they seem to be criticizing what you're doing. Stop caring abt what they say! You're doing the best, under very hard circumstances! Time YOU acknowledge that... even if others don't. You have your 2 kids to think about. And it seems you're being a good mom by worrying about them and working and trying to make ends meet. I can't believe you don't feel how important and courageous you are!
Is there a way you could ask for advice from a women's shelter or church near by?
May God help you and may your children's smiles put a smile on your face too!
2007-09-10 22:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please Please go see your Doc... I'm sure you are suffering from depression and they have all kinds of help now a days... Depression is not the same as having the occasional "blues" or feeling sad every once in a while -- and then bouncing back to your old self. Depression can be mild, moderate or so severe that it affects every part of your life -- your body, your feelings, your thoughts and your behaviors. It can have an impact on your family relationships, your friendships and your ability to work, play or just get through your day. At its worst, depression can even make you feel like you don't want to live. These thoughts and feelings are not your fault. They can be part of depression.
When the sadness persists or keeps returning, when everyday things like sleeping, working, spending time with your family and simply enjoying life continue to be difficult, it is not "just the blues." You could be dealing with major depression.
People with depression may often feel or notice the following symptoms that last 2 or more weeks:
Sad mood, worry, feeling empty
Not being interested in things or not being able to enjoy the things that you used to
Feeling more or less hungry, a change in weight (up or down)
Trouble sleeping (waking up early or problems falling asleep), or sleeping too much
Feeling tired or run down
Feeling worthless, not having hope
Problems keeping your focus or making decisions
Thoughts of not wanting to live... Please just don't give up think of your kids and seek help...
2007-09-10 21:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by ~~Lisa~~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could also make a long list what all I have endured and I also did no longer care to live anymore, life seemed worthless to me,, but but !!!!!! I was Amish and tried my best to be a good Amish Christian, seemed the more I tried the worse I got so finally I gave in and said to God , I will do anything to please you if only you get me out of this misery, and God clearly showed me to let loose of the strict bondage I was in with the Amish, so I with my children decided to walk out of that cult and I got set free and healed from 5 years of depression, today I am enjoying a happy life , I did have to change my thinking pattern, like: do not allow your mind to think negative, force your mind to think only things that spark and make you happy even if it looks completely dark!!!!!! get the movie called the secret and change your life, nobody else can change it for you, I care
2007-09-10 21:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live? Try finding a shelter run by the Volunteers of America. They are all over the country. These shelters are very well run and can help you with your issues. They can house you, feed you, help you find work that will still allow you to still collect welfare, assist you with your mental health issues and help you with your children and any of their needs. I have been working for a VOA shelter and I assist people with these very same issues and can help you deal with them. You are not alone and the individuals that work in the shelters want to help you.
If this is of any interest, please email me and I can help you.
2007-09-10 22:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by TenFour20 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to say I'm so very sorry you're in this situation. Please believe me when I say you're NOT alone. There are a lot of people here who are very worried about you and want you to be happy. I myself have been dealing with depression for a number of years now, but I keep the faith that one of these days things will be better for me. I encourage you to send me a message and chat with me if you like. I would like to help you if I could, and if you will let me. PLEASE get counseling from a mental health professional. PLEASE talk to somebody. PLEASE let somebody know what is going on in your life. Please believe me when I say it won't be like this forever. Things WILL get better for you, all I ask is you keep the faith. You are in my prayers. God bless you and Good Luck.
2007-09-10 22:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you commit suicide, you will make life much harder for your kids. show your kids how deeply you love them by working through this bad spot in your life and theirs. show them that life gets better and that you will protect them through difficult time. no one can love your kids as you do. don't take that love away from them. life is so worth fighting for.
2007-09-10 22:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by starhopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are so unhappy. If you're willing to work - no get rich schemes, I can share with you how to earn money using your computer etc. You have great motivation - your children...and you're worth it, too. Working for someone else mostly makes money for them.
2007-09-10 21:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
eh well if you want the best for your kids then stick around a little while longer
2007-09-10 21:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋