My friend came to me with a problem, and I don't quite know what to tell her. She is beginning an internship tomorrow, and she and the lady that will be her boss during the internship, have already gotten off to a wrong start. First of all, she is requiring that for this internship, my friend have transportation and a laptop. My friend had neither of these things, and could not possibly afford a car, so she explained the situation and the lady was fine. However, the laptop was a must, so my friend took out a loan and bought a new laptop. The problem is, she had to start her internship several weeks late until she had the money to buy the laptop, because her supervisor did not want her to come into work without a laptop. So now, the lady has complained to my friend's Professor in school (internship is a required class course), and my friend is scared to go to the internship at all now because she thinks the lady hates her. If you were her, would you quit or suck it up and go?
2007-09-10 14:21:26 · 14 answers · asked by Katina 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
The problem is if she quits then it will cause her to fail the class, but if she stays, then she runs the risk of having a boss that thinks she's incompetent. She is really stressed about this, and I have no idea what to tell her. What would you do?
2007-09-10 14:22:59 · update #1
i think she should go to the professor..and tell him that it should have been noted that as a requirement you have to have a laptop..its an internship..it should have been loaned to her by this boss witch..she should def go..she has worked hard for this now has a loan for a computer....why wouldnt she? is she gonna give up out in the real world everytime something doesnt go her way? everytime someone talks about you do you go hide..no..you show up and hold your head high..do the best you can because this is about learning that is what an internship is..if she quits the witch won..why give in and let her have that satisfaction?
2007-09-10 14:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by bailie28 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've never heard of an internship requiring you to buy your own computer...but the very best thing to advise your friend to do is to go talk to the professor at length about the situation. It sounds like your friend may not have been upfront in her description of the situation...I mean, if the internship required a laptop, your friend communicated that she needed to take out a loan for one and would therefore start the internship late, and now the boss is mad...well, something doesn't add up. Did she not tell the boss that she didn't have a laptop at first, or not tell her she was going to start late? What did the boss complain about exactly? At any rate, if she was upfront with the boss and the boss complained, then the boss is unreasonable and your friend should talk to her professor. If she was not upfront with the boss, then she still needs to talk to her professor and admit whatever mistakes she may have made, and ask for the professor's advice. After all, the professor is the one that will be grading her! I hope that helps!
2007-09-10 14:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Momster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were your friend, I would go to my professor in school and
talk about this internship, the boss and ask for advice.
I would make sure my professor knew that although I didn`t know or did know but had to get a loan for the laptop and couldn`t go to the internship without it, I would have liked to be able to go anyway so I knew what I was getting into and not be too far behind but was not allowed.
Also I would ask if there is another internship I could complete
for the course instead of that one. (I would have asked about this in the beginning)
She should not be scared of this lady. The lady agreed to the internship and cannot intimidate because of things that were out of your firends control.
Or she should have offered to loan her a laptop in the interim.
2007-09-10 14:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here are the points that I gather:
1. Needs the internship.
2. Wasn't exactly prepared, but has the stuff now.
3. Boss lady knows that she has a late start.
4. Part of required work for graduation.
5. Your friend is sensitive.
Your friend is scared. That is fair. I would be scared too I think. But it isn't that big of a deal and she can earn her boss's respect by doing the job she is required to do now. Lots of students are ill prepared for the real world.
Recommend sucking it up...showing up. Doing the work and after a day or so....the embarassment will be over.
There are lots of awkward times in life. This is the first that she needs to cope with. Plus, it teaches her to problem solve.
Tell her to just do it...and she will be glad she did.
2007-09-10 14:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She has to tough it out-
I realize that it is a tough economy and most people are just making and some aren't making it at all...To expect someone to run and out and have the money to buy a laptop and a vehicle is just being unreasonable- tell your friend to get in there, be dynamic, and prove to her boss that she has got something to offer the corporation. If she doesn't show up, she is re-enforcing what the boss already thinks. She can't back down because someone else has formed a wrongful opinion..she has to work extra hard and let everyone know that she is a valuable asset to the industry!
2007-09-10 14:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Teej 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO job and NO grade is worth your health. If she is indeed wrapped that tight perhaps withdrawing and trying it again next semester is the answer. On the other hand she needs some exposure to a hostile workplace. I know I covered all bets. Not really. If there is any way she can tough it out that is what she should do. All I am saying is that if she is sick all the time the process will do her no good. So she should try to work through it. She will be better for it in the long run.
2007-09-10 14:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she quits, she will always wonder what if she had kept the job. I would keep trying and go on with the internship b/c after the internship is over she could always prove herself to be better than her boss believes she is.
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2016-09-05 09:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by widrick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's come this far, she has the laptop, so she should stick with it. Maybe once she gets to know the lady things will change. The lady can't really hate her if she doesn't really know her. Tell her to tough it out, keep her chin up and dive in! I bet she'll do just fine!
2007-09-10 14:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by N L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she needs to suck it up. Let her prove that she can be competent. Better to start now. What is the worst that can happen? She should talk to her boss without excuses and appoligies. Just tell her she is now ready to get to work.
2007-09-10 14:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋