Yesterday, I asked if long distance relationships work and I got some good answers but I think I'll get better answers if I describe my situation. In high school, I met this girl around April of this year. We became close. We started hanging out and stuff. I started to like her a lot. Unfortunately, we were both seniors in high school and the time flew by so fast. Before I knew it, we graduated. But I had her phone number and I called her and asked her out. She got excited and started calling her friends, etc. I found that that she liked me a lot too. But unfortunately, she was too busy over the summer and we didn't get to go out. Now we are both in college. I go to a college in New York and she goes to a college in Ohio. The soonest we will be able to see each other again will be in late December when both our colleges are over for the semester, which is such a long time away. :( But we still call each other. Do you think this relationship would work?
2007-09-10 13:54:12 · 16 answers · asked by radical coolie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Enough work, and it will work. You both have to want it equally.
2007-09-10 14:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by alan l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a bad idea to get together and see each other in December, but I wouldn't make any promises about a monogamous relationship, because one or both of you will break it. If you were a little older (maybe college seniors) I could see it having a chance as a serious relationship, but for now you are both embarking on a whole new chapter in your lives that is going to change you, challenge you, and tempt you. Enjoy this time because you will never get it back. If it is meant to be and you guys are still in contact in a few years....give it a chance. For now I'd keep it casual though.
2007-09-10 14:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not as a relationship in the long run. But in all honesty it may last as a valuable friendship if you both look at it in a mature manner and realize that you are both still pretty young and have a lot of temptations while away from each other. Best of luck and remember no-one can have too many friends so value whatever type of relationship you two may have develop.
2007-09-10 14:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let distance separate both of you. It will work if both of you are committed to each other. In fact, long distance relationships are a really good way to test your feelings for each other. If the relationship does not work then its better to end it.
2007-09-10 14:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by YakuzA-sama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at the moment. You should still keep her in mind though. I think that you should meet other college girls, first because they are the ones that you are nearer to. But if you don't want to and like her to much, then you don't have to. It is often quite hard to keep up with this kind of relationship, and long distance relationships can sometimes keep you from meeting the girl of your dreams.
2007-09-10 14:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by ren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your realationship could last, if you two really care about each other enough. Also, you will have to trust each other because there is always the possibility that she could be cheating on you/ you could be cheating on her. (even though thats probably not what you want to hear, im being honest) If you want to make this work out with her you also have to keep in touch with her, call each other. Because even if you cant call her for 3 days because you are busy studying for a huge test, to her in Ohio she could be thinking about you and it may seem like you are avoiding her.
You also have to think about if you really want her because you may care about her alot one minute, and another you could be wishing you could be with someone you could party with every night.
good luck!
2007-09-10 14:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by *P*H*S* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i'm sorry, i don't. I was with my boyfriend for a year and a half before i left to go to college and it was hard enough. I think in order to get that beginning relationship connection you need to stay together you have to be together physically. I wish i could say it would work, but i don't think it could. It was so hard, i moved home.
2007-09-10 14:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by LoveisfirE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probability isn't high...the stretches apart are loooong, the temptations locally are many and strong. I wouldn't even want to try it if I was in y'alls position...that's too many years of the frustration of being apart, watching my friends and dorm mates date, and then probably only to find after graduation that we're not even really romantically compatible after all (or any more, if we ever were).
I've tried the ldr thing over the years...not a fan of it.
2007-09-10 14:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could if you can both be faithful, but just starting at college, I really doubt that it will work since you will both be meeting all kinds of new people...sorry
2007-09-10 14:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by jls2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how much you want to make it work. if you think its worth it to wait for her then, yeah give it a shot. but you also have to keep her in mind as well. if you think she feels its better to see other people, then just end it now before you get hurt later. if not, then maybe you should see where things go for a while
2007-09-10 14:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by kathyebabyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - sorry, I do not think it will work. You would be better off all the around if you spent your time STUDYING instead of trying to make something against the odds work.
2007-09-10 14:01:35 · answer #11 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋