How did you feel when you decided to have a baby?? Were you excited, were you nervous??? What things did you think of??? My husband and I are thinking of having a baby but I just keep thinking about different things that we should wait for...but I really want to have a baby and so does he...When did you finally say, "lets do it"??? Please only serious answers...
2007-09-10 13:42:09 · 14 answers · asked by C_McMillan 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I havent gotten pregnant yet but i have been ttc for about 5 1/2 years now, i knew that i wanted to have a family when my husband (b/f at the time) held my cousin at 3 weeks of age and fed and burped her thats when i knew i wanted a family. good luck.
2007-09-10 13:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question of so many couples. There is really never a "perfect" time to have children. Excuses can be made all the time and that means positive and negative.
Nervous? Everyone is from time to time.
You may feel like you're giving up a part of your life you enjoy, freedom, no accountablilty to stay out late etc...but being a parent is great! That part of your life you will have for the rest of your life! Once a parent always a parent.
My take on "lets do it"....If you just tell yourselves that you're going to try and if you get pregnant then it's meant to be. God will decide the right time for conception...remember He's in control.
I would tell you how we felt about having our first child but she was kind of a surprise. We were happy though when we found out. We had a miscarriage two years later and then two years later had our son! All times we just thought if it happens it happens.
Best of luck....Blessings all around.
2007-09-10 20:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by okiemom67 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When u become distracted by the site of a baby. U always look for the babies when your out shopping; and it makes u smile and yearn for your own.'' Your ready for a baby.'' There will never be a perfect time to have a baby.... there's always something u want and think u should wait until u get it. U have to be the one to say your ready.... your the major participant. Love every minute of it..... Good luck with your pregnancy.
2007-09-10 20:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by dobu256 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've finished thinking about all the reasons you should wait, ask yourself:
Is my husband going to be supportive of me?
Do we enough love to share with a baby?
If I want to stay home and take care of the baby for the next 3-5 years(or whatever you choose), Is my husband going to still support us?
Does he love me unconditionally?
I say this because love and support is all that really matters. You'll be emotional and having craving and your mood will change from time to time and you will need unconditional love and understanding. If he can do this, you'll be happy. If you are happy, then that will make him happy. If the 2 of you are happy, your baby will be happy and that is what matters.
2007-09-11 10:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by mstdean518 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first my husband and I kept saying we wanted to be more financially stable, because we had too many debts... We would also worry about how we were going to be able to afford day care... Things of that sort. However, I finally realized that there is never a "perfect" time. There is always something that could be "better" in your life and if you keep thinking about it, precious time will just keep slipping away... So one day I just told him, let's get pregnant and he said ok let's do it and we did. Just take the plunge and don't be scared. Good luck!
2007-09-10 22:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mom32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... Did you really think about every thing, money, school, house, future, family?
Each one gets affected when a baby comes in the line... I think if you think your financial capable and also your husband feels he's going to be there and not miss out, then yeah, your ready...
Having a child is a blessing but also puts you in knots, and that's what life is all about... Well hopefully you and your husband think through it and do have the baby...
Good Luckk =))
2007-09-10 20:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready? Noone is ever ready for a baby. You will never be financially perpared for a child, or the time it takes to raise one.
mine was an opps. I was scared to death! I didnt want to be a mother! I didnt want to change poo diapers.. but on the flip side, alot of good has come out of it. My boyfriend an i purchaced a house, and we've "grown up" even tho we are both adults. I cant wait to get off work to be with my child.. i love wake'n up eary now to play with blocks and rings.
The joy a child brings is what makes it all worth it.
When it happens, it just means it's the right time for both of you to welcome a new life into the world.
Best of luck!
2007-09-10 20:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by ツ Connors Mommy ツ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was sort of a surprise, I mean we talked about it and loved the idea but didn't plan on it happening anytime soon. But we didn't exactly use the precautions to avoid pregnancy. So here I am, 35 weeks with #1 and I have an amazing support system, both of our families are extremely excited about it. Financially I think we'll manage as long as we have eachother.
2007-09-11 12:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, our son wasn't planned so I can tell you the exact moment we decided to have a child. But what I can tell you is that I don't think you're ever "ready" You don't even know what to expect when it is your own child. Once you're pregnant and your baby comes, you're different. If you and your husband both are ready then go for it.
2007-09-10 20:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew it when everytime I saw a baby, I thought about it. We were so afraid of not being financially ready enough - but I'm glad we went ahead and did have a baby. He's our world. Every day is full of surprises and life has becaome so much more with him in it. If you are even asking this question - deep down you probably know your ready. Good luck!
2007-09-10 20:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by cursed1029@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋