The thing is,whenever i go to my parents home,i go out with my ex-boyfriend and i also have been seing other guys outside of our relationship.He loves me alot and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.Should i be honest and come clean with him or should i just forget about it and marry him like i promised?
2007-09-10 13:39:05 · 8 answers · asked by racksbabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He obviously is not doing it for you if you feel the need for other men.
Do you confuse sex and fleeting attention for love?
If you come clean he may not want to be with you any more. How would that make you feel?
You can't agree to marry anyone unless you know that they are the right person.
Can you see yourself being faithful to him...having sex with no one else but him for the rest of your life?
If you are unsure then let him go and find someone who will treat him well.
2007-09-10 13:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ilkie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Racksbabe do the honourable thing and be 100% honest with this fella. If you did marry him without telling him about what you have been doing you'd carry this guilt around with you until they plant you. Or some night when you've had too much to drink or whatever you might become all emotional and begin spitting out the truth at that time. And it wouldn't be as well received in a situation like that as today when you've got your wits about you. If you indeed do plan on marrying this man then you might want to make sure that you can be faithful and attempt to convince him of this also. He's certainly going to be hurt by your infidelity but may well give you another opportunity to prove to you both that you can be there for only him. Good luck and whatever happens in this relationship remember to use this as a learning experience and one not to repeat again. Besides think of how you would feel if the shoe was reversed.
2007-09-10 13:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things change and you are not bound by that promise to marry him. Certainly not if your feelings have changed since making that promise. You cannot marry a guy that you are not currently being faithful to. Something is lacking from the relationship, or you wouldn't be looking elsewhere. When i was 18 i went through a similar thing.. the guy was fantastic but i kept cheating on him, i broke the relationship off and regretted it for a long time. But in retrospect i was not ready for that relationship, i needed to be single so that when i found the right guy i was ready to settle down. You don't say how old you are, but sounds like you aren't ready to settle down. Be young and enjoy the single life, he deserves someone who will be wholly committed, and I am sure on some level he is aware that you are not bringing an equal amount of commitment to the relationship.
Make your choice and do it soon!
2007-09-10 19:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Vic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you already know the right thing to do is be honest with him. Also you obviously don't feel the same so why would you even be considering more? I feel it will hurt him more in the long run to be in a relationship where he is the only one that wants it to work.
2007-09-10 14:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by sandlers_girl84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be honest with him. The worst thing ever is secrets. If you don't want to spend the rest of your life with him, you should tell him. Try not to let him get his hopes up to far.
2007-09-10 20:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw my days forget the syrup other answerers have given you sheesh you obv are not ready to settle down be honest with the guy and tell him you are seeing other people and let him get on with his life and find someone who WANTS to be with him and is not just using him as a standby
2007-09-10 15:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to marry you, he deserves to know the truth, even if he may not like it.
2007-09-10 14:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by Cirrus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt marry him your obviously dont want to be with him if your still with other guys
2007-09-11 05:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋