It all started on Saturday and we got in a little arguement and I ended up hanging up on him. He got pissed and went to bed. So the next day, he wouldn't answer my calls and then I finally get a text from him saying that I should stop trying because I deserved better then him and he was lying to me.
So last night after several calls and texting, he told me a few of his "lies" and one included him telling me that he wasnt a virgin and that he has been with other women besides me. He also let me know that he has "sisterly feelings for his ex" and that I need to respect that. I was ok with that as long as they were ONLY friends. She lives in ny.
He is a little bit older then me and before we talked last night I felt like we were almost at the same maturity level, but now that he has showed his real self I feel a little immature and unsure about myself.
I have lost all trust in him and I dont know if it will come back. I need other peoples opinions on if I should stay or go?
2007-09-10 12:36:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When people are hurt, they tend to strike back any way they can in a retaliatory fashion. Hence, don't be surprised at his reaction after your fallout. But before you lose all trust in him and consider both of you to be immature, I suggest you consider the following:1)was he telling you the whole truth or trying to hurt you back2)was he exaggerating the information he gave you----his virginity, ex, so called lies---because he knew those were the things that would bother you the most.3)even if they were true,are they sufficient enough for you to end your romance.I ask you to talk to him first before you decide on what to do;especially, if it means the end of your romance for no good reason other than false pride and ego.
2007-09-10 12:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not about the real him...it's about the lies! How can you ever trust him and what hasn't he told you yet? The sisterly feelings for his ex are a crock of rotten bananas...nothing more and nothing less. For someone who shouldn't have had anything to hide, he did a good job of hiding those two things. What will he do if it's something he considers really important? He may be older than you but it sounds to me as though you have the maturity level that has escaped him!
2007-09-10 12:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel good about the situation, tell him you need time, and think things out before you get into anything over your head.
2007-09-10 15:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its really good that he told you all that, and like if you now cant trust him I dont think you should cause it takes a man to tell his gf. that
2007-09-10 12:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by PaperbagPrincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't trust him before a serious relationship
how on earth can u trust him after?
2007-09-10 12:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jdawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋