i want a long relationship. im sick of having relationships for only a couple of months. i want to get serious and have a long relationship.
im talking to this guy and im sure we will begin to go out soon....but how can i make it last? i always end up screwing things up. help please!
2007-09-10 11:52:38 · 21 answers · asked by blondebaby11 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Blondie, look at yourself from another person's viewpoint. Your answer lies on what stage of life you are in right now. How mature are you? How forgiving are you? Are you compassionate, arrogant, vain?????? Before you can really love another person, you must understand what your own karma is, where and how do you see yourself in say 1 year from now, or 5 years from now, or even 10 years from now? And in realizing what your spirit really needs, please keep in mind the reality of life.....tomorrow is promised to no one. Your partner in life will eventually turn up, and I dare say......you may not know that he is the one. Relationships take time, what happens during that time is what makes or breaks a relationship. Be yourself, be honest, loyal, compassionate and loving. Do not look for your perceived perfect match, be ready to compromise when on how your partner looks.....you cannot judge a book by its cover. Yes, sex is important, but sex is just one aspect in a relationship. There is so much more to experience in a relationship and limiting your relationship to just one aspect is not going to work. Remember this......DO NOT try to hold on to someone unnecessarily or by degrading yourself, if that someone really cares or has love for you, that someone will come back to you and show it. Take care;)
2007-09-11 06:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Tea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a "serious" relationship takes work, time, patience, trust, and last but definately not least love. A long term relationship comes from someone you can laugh with and be understanding of one another and it is not something that can happen over night. Sometimes, just when you think you've found Mr. Right - you find out that he's Mr. Wrong...EVERYTHING happens for a reason. The right person will come into your life when you least expect it. You have to make sure you love yourself before you are able to love someone and have someone love you. DON'T be desperate and don't let anybody use you - a true lover is someone who loves YOU for YOU. Hope this helps a bit - Good Luck!
2007-09-10 19:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly.. Communication. if you communicate really well then anything is possible. if you can tell the other person anything and I mean anything then it will most likely be a long lasting relationship. Also dont stay in a bad or not so good relationship just for the sake of staying in a relationship.
2007-09-10 18:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Rob B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to make it last is to start a relationship with someone you like and have a lot in common with who you want to be with, not just the next guy who walks down the street. Now if you've found that person, keys to good, lasting relationships are honesty, trust, personal space and keeping the romance alive!
2007-09-10 18:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be nice 99% of the time
always say sorry when you are wrong or mean etc (but dont make it a habit )
never boss him in any way because they feel like you are their mum
be loving
praise him when its due
appreciate him
never nag
ask him to do a choir for you by all means but only once on the day any more & its a nag
& ask nicely
& dont complain if he does not jump & do it straight away
& if he does some thing for you & you dont think its good enough just fix it up when he's not watching in other words dont say that is not how i want it done, because that will push him away quick smart
NEVER criticise EVER
you have time say once a week or month with your girlfriends
& let him have time with his mates
2007-09-10 19:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant be sure that it will last but take each day as it comes dont rush into it, always remember what is meant to be will be and you will enter a long term relationship - just dont be hasty.
2007-09-10 18:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand where ur comin from...i hav a new guy each week and im sick of it...best way to go is to become friends first. i hav a best friend who ive known for five years. we've been boyfrnd/grlfrnd 3x and each time lasted less than a month b/c i felt i wasnt cable of being a good grlfrnd, but we still stayed friends...then became best frnds. recently he proposed to me which is awkard (cuz im 17) and i rejected him...he's still my best friend and he's still waitng.
so my answer to help u is to trust him and belive that he trusts u...having a friendship w/ a guy u like wont hurt u...it'll jus make ur relationship wit him stronger! :]
2007-09-10 19:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by ..::unknown::.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wrong person to ask, ive had 2 serious relatoinships n 1 not so serious, and i screwed up all of them, all i can say to you is this, dont do anything that will upset the guy in any way, but dont always be on your toes either
2007-09-10 18:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by sweethyedreamer213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and don't keep secerets from each other...be open and honest...talk to each other, if there is something that bothers you let him know and talk about it...relationships are hard work but if you meet the right person then it is well worth it...
remember just because you think you have screwed things up doesn't mean that you have!
good luck x
2007-09-10 19:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by Neil H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, just do exactly what you would normaly would do in a relationship EXCEPT always be honest with him. Dishonesty is always a key to losing a relationship fast. And go his pace to how far and fast you want to "go".
2007-09-10 19:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋