Help :victim?

Question

I hate my brother with all of my life......................when we were little he used to sexually molest me , I was 7 or 8 and he was around 15 and I never got over it..............my parents soon found out when they caught him in the act, and sent him away to a miltary acadamy and got me some conseling.............I am not 11 years old and my brother is now 18 an adult, my parents have forgave him and he now lives with us again, he never acknowledges me around the house and I don't acknowledge him, but I feel weird with him living in my house I go to bed and I feel someones watching me, when I take a shower I feel he's there, (one time he even walked in on me while in there, he claimed it was an accident but I'm really not sure.) so I didn't tell my family buy now I'm in a relationship with my boyfirned and we want to take it to the next level but I can't seem too because I feel weird because of my brother

Answer 1

I bet, really you and your brother need some councilling with each other or else nether one of you can move past this. Really at this point the brothers a lost cause, those parents in there great wisdom did something extremely wrong with him and instead of answering for it, they looked for the quick fixes. Which means that chances are pretty strong he hasn't changed one bit, you feel that, and its scares you because something like that should excite you. Really would seem you need to break that bro done, look him in the eye and tell him you don't feel that he changed and that you NEED him to keep his space. Also get him everytime you have a chance, he walks in like that again, reremind him about the occurence, tell him, Hey you melested me and I know what your up to so don't play stupid games with me, Just make it uncomfrontable. This well accomplish one of two things, ether make him so uncomfronatable around you that he just plain keeps up even more space, which will make it easier on you to live witih him. Or two, force him to answer for what he did and HOPFULLY you guys can grow past it, not easy with out a medium like a councillor, but you don't have much choice. Denail is only going to make this hurt more, and you flexin your power on this is part of moving past it for you. So use that voice and tell this mofo about how you feel, and trust me you'll be able to be more comfrontable with your boyfriend in time, as long as you don't just keep swallowing this to yourself.... give him heck!