i have/had a crush on a guy at work. The thing is we used be close friends and I started liking him as more than a friend and I told hm . I got the since that he liked me too since he always flirted with me and cracked jokes, etc. But, he has a gf in the Phillipines whom he is engaged 2 since I helped him get the ring for her. He only sees her once every 2 years and I think we started experiencing sexual tension since we had a convo about doing it. I called him a dog since I thought he was comn on to me but then he denied he was serious bout it and said he was kidding. He said I should focus on someone else and that we no longer be friends since I was 2 obsessive bout him. I emailed him saying that we were both wrong for talking about sex, he blamed me for being weird. i got mad and told him not to b my friend. he told me not to talk 2 him unless work related. i've been ignorn him, but yesterday, i saw him and he luked at me like he was hurt. I said hi, but i don't know what to do.
2007-09-10 09:31:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have a crush on him and he's not interested you should just let it be and maybe the friendship will come back
I know it hard, but he must care about his
gf or maybe he was just looking for a booty call......send him an apology card if you feel you want to pursue it but it might be
just prolonging the inevitable...
2007-09-10 09:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Victoria ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are both in a strange place, you are both attracted to each other and this makes it complicated for him because he is already in a committed relationship. It's OK to say you are sorry but he needs to take his share of the blame here you did not flirt or get to this spot by yourself and if he is not willing to step up then let him go. it is going to hurt because you have to see each other day but don't take all of the blame. He is probably feeling really guilty and needs to deal with his feelings. Maybe you should ask him to have coffee or a drink after hours and sit down and discuss how or if you can get past this and get back to being friends. Since you have a mutual attraction if you continue to be friends you will need to lay down the rules of what lines can be crossed and what cannot. Good Luck!
2007-09-10 09:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't send him an e-card. Computers are too impersonal. Apoligize to his face, and mean it. He may not act like he's listening, but he will be. Just say, "Look ____ I'm sorry things got weird with us. I should'nt have talked about that kind of stuff knowing you have a finance. I'm sorry and I hope we can still be friends." And just leave it at that. If he doesn't come back to you and talk about it within a few days, then just forget it. If he can't pull himself together to talk with a close friend, then maybe he's not really as good of a friend as you thought.
Good luck.
2007-09-10 09:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should if you really like this guy, even if you didn't do anything to make him upset. I think that that is the best thing to do just to make sure that he is not mad at you!
2007-09-10 09:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by hallohalllooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think ecards are the way to go. i think hes a jerk for being so mad, and you should forget him. or if u really like him just give him time to cool off.
so sorry that happened, he shouldnt be acting like that.
if hes so immature to think youre obsessing over him i dont htink hes worth your time.
act like it doesnt even phase you.
youre a strong woman!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-10 09:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by szweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sendin a e-card is so impersonal. You should talk to hime face to face and explain how you feel.. Good luck!!
2007-09-10 09:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is weird. I think he is playing hard to get, trying to get you want it. he is such a lame cheater. if he has a girlfriend, he should have never talked to you about doing "that". I'd move on. you act like you want to beg him, he thinks he is in control. you should counter and make him taste his own medicine. act like nothing.
2007-09-10 09:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Carborane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, an e-card is the only solution/
2007-09-10 09:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apoligize for being a fool, and be his friend....
From there, let things go as they willl..
2007-09-10 09:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him face to face and say sorry and that there are certain boundiaries that he cant cross because he's getting married
2007-09-10 09:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by HELP! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋