I''m havng trouble getting things done, I fall asleep when I see the big picture :(?

Question

To start off I'm a stay at home dad till I can find a decent job, i now understand that term "a womans work is never done, " or something like that though I'm not a woman, I guess it applies to home makers, which *ehem* I'd have to say I am. No money for day care . Well I have tons of things to do around the house, clean up, organizing, finding papers, cleaning up after my son has torn everything up, etc. Now, I have everything all in place and ready to attack to get done though, I still have other things to get to also. Why is it that when i get started i just feel so overwhlemd and I want to go to sleep? I actualyl feel tired even if I had plenty of sleep. My son is very high maintanance, I have to keep an eye on him all the time and give him something to do or play with him and he's very distracting, but at times I have no time to play with him, its like cleaning and up keeping is never ending. Am I lazy? This is depressing.

Oh yeah, I had to add, I do have 3 kids *cry's*...nah it isnt that bad, but sometimes yes when things are just a little ouf of control, though, I'm fortunate they are all 4 years spaced apart.

I do exercise regularly but the past few weeks I have slacked off. It just seems when I do start to get to things my mind is constantly calculating what I need to get done, priorities that are more imperative, then recalculating, and then the hard part....where to start.

Answer 1

I reckon being a stay-at-home parent is HARD WORK!!!

I don't think many people realise just how difficult and tiring it can be. Unlike a job outside the home, you can sit back and take a breather when required, but you can't drop your guard for one moment with a young child, and then like you say, the chores just never seem to end.

Perhaps you can try not to see the "big picture" but focus instead on one chore at a time rather than think about EVERYTHING you still have to do. And try not to give yourself additional pressure by thinking you need to have X & Y done by a certain time.

I don't think you're lazy. But I think it's great that you get to bond with your child before you go back to work outside the home. Focus on the precious time you get to have now with your son. You just might miss this time later.

Answer 2

Dude you need to drink more water. Probably change how you eat... You also need to exercises, get some blood flowing to your brain. Even if you make yourself tired with exercises you will get more energy. You should get motivated to get your s.it together because if you don't you'll just see life pass before your eyes. I guess feeling like you do and asking a question like that is a step to getting better. Get up and handle business... Exercise, breathing exercises and better diet will help you. Parenting is the toughest thing in the world, you need to find a way to balance your reponsibilities and do more.

Answer 3

My Mom is a single Mom who has three kids. I'm 14, my brother is 12, and my sister is 2 1/2. It's not your fault. You're gonna get tired. You do everything. You get tired you get tired. See if you have a friend who can come over while you're doing your thing. That way they won't be watching him, you'll still be there and can still get things done. Good luck. :)

Answer 4

well actually the more sleep you get the more sleep you want..and this doesn't mean that if you get one hour of sleep you wont want a lot of sleep. but you should look for a job and care for your son and mayb teach him not to make such a mess