I have a guy friend and we've been really good friends for the past year...during the summer, we talked about who we liked, but he wouldn't tell me who it was....I didn't really mind....and today at lunch(Me, him, and 2 other girls sit together), we were talking about who we liked and he said that he didn't like anybody anymore...and so I asked him who he used to like but he said he still wouldn't tell me...I was ok with that too...but then the girl who sits next to him asked him who it was and so he leaned over and told her(he said it loud enough so I could hear but it was still aimed at her)...that's when I wasn't ok with it....why after I asked, would he not tell but when she asked he just told her and disregarded him saying that he wouldn't tell...he's known her for less than a month and he's telling her these things...yet he has known me for longer than a year and we've told eachother personal things before, and he doesn't tell me when I ask...Am I wrong for being mad at him???
2007-09-10 09:20:05 · 40 answers · asked by problem_girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you shouldn't be mad at him for that. Us guys like to make any kind of girls our Friends. He did that to try and make her feel included in the group of friends. How would you feel if you were left out as the new girl?
Another thing is that he didn't want you to get the wrong idea between you two. We guys always watch what we say around girls because it would be disastrous if we said one word out of line. In your case, he didn't say who because he wants you to still be his friend even if you weren't the one he liked. Trust me, I know!
Hope this helps! Forgive yourself and him as well!!!
2007-09-10 09:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Man Dude 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You definitely have a right to be mad. This is someone who you have built a relationship with for a considerable amount of time, and who you consider to be a friend. If he was going to tell someone something personal, you would think it would be someone he's known longer than a month.
But don't be too mad. Consider why he hasn't told you.
The girl he likes may really be you and he may be too shy or embarrassed to let you know.
Let him know how you feel.
2007-09-10 09:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he likes you in a subconcious way, but doesn't or can't, or doesn't realize that he likes you yet.
Its a adolescent thing with kids these days.
Maybe he was comfortable telling her because he hardly knows her, and he wouldn't tell you because he knows you, and he knows how you would react. Not sure, could be anything.
But if you get mad, it may sound like your a little bit jealous. Question is do you have feelings for him?
Friends shouldn't get mad about anything that petty.
Feel disappointed in not confiding in you is understandable, but you shouldn't get mad at someone unless you know all the FACTS first.
good luck.
2007-09-10 09:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right to be mad, but maybe you were the girl he liked and that's why he didn't want to tell you. Or maybe he likes the girl he told and telling her was his way of flirting or just trying to get her to trust him to where she might date him down the line. I"m not sure, you do have the right to be mad but i wouldn't worry about it to much, that's a little thing to sit around and dwell about, just forgive and forget.
2007-09-10 09:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by brit24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about being mad, but I would be very hurt and angry if I were you. To me that would signify that his trust in you and his investment in your friendship is not as deep as yours. So either you can talk to him about this and more clearly define what kind of friends you are to each other or you can accept that hes not going to be one of your closer friends and that he should be treated more like an acquaintance that you hang out with rather than someone you confide in.
2007-09-10 09:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad at him. He can't/won't tell you because he's shy and thinks you're not interested in him as a potential boyfriend - which is why he kept it a secret from you when you asked him, and why he wouldn't answer you but whispered it to your friend. He's not dissing you, he's just nervous and too shy to tell you how he feels. Just let the "you told her, not me" thing drop and let him know how you feel about him.
2007-09-10 09:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
While I can understand you being a little annoyed, I don't think it's worth getting upset about.
Try to think about how you will feel about it in twenty years, and i'm quite sure that you will recognize the triviality of the situation.You can make yourself a happier and healthier person by using that standard in the future.
2007-09-10 09:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not wrong for being mad. Did u find out who it was he had liked????? Maybe it was u and he couldnt say.???? Sometimes something like that is pretty hard for people even if it was a while ago.
2007-09-10 09:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by P1-G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's doing the same thing as if he was yanking your pigtails; trying to get your attention. I think he really likes you! Is he trying to tease you and make you jealous? It sure sounds like it. He's going about this in a very childish manner.
2007-09-10 09:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by ga.peach67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you have every right for being upset..but dont be mad at him,,because a lot of guys do that kind of stuff just to get your attention soo..dont show him that your mad cause he will just be stupid about it..cheer up=]]]
2007-09-10 09:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋