The other night I was at a party and some guys I'm friends with dared me to flash them so I unbuttoned my shirt and flashed them. Then I sat down between them on the couch but never buttoned my shirt. My boyfriend walked in later and saw me sitting between the two guys with my shirt all the way unbuttoned and he got really mad. I didn't do anything with the guys I just wasn't thinking when I sat down. What can I say to my boyfriend to make him understand I wasn't doing anything with those guys? I can't tell him I flashed them because he got mad at me before for flashing other guys.
2007-09-10 08:40:44 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all for your answers. I appreciate the different points of view. Some of you agree with me that flashing is no big deal and others thin I'm a slut which is fine. The one thing I do have an issue with is the issue of "respecting my body". Why do I have to keep my body covered up in order to "respect" it according to you people? I'm proud of my body and I enjoy flashing. Maybe you can argue about respecting my boyfriend but it's not disrespectful to my body just because I choose not to be a prude.
Either way it doesn't matter much because last night my now ex-boyfriend and I broke up. He got really nasty and grabbed a hold of me and started yelling at me. I told him to leave me alone but he hurt my wrists so I'm done with him. I'm sure some of you think I deserved to be bruised but I don't think I need that type of guy. Thank you all again.
2007-09-10 23:16:23 · update #1
Thank you all for your answers. I appreciate the different points of view. Some of you agree with me that flashing is no big deal and others thin I'm a s l u t which is fine. The one thing I do have an issue with is the issue of "respecting my body". Why do I have to keep my body covered up in order to "respect" it according to you people? I'm proud of my body and I enjoy flashing. Maybe you can argue about respecting my boyfriend but it's not disrespectful to my body just because I choose not to be a prude.
Either way it doesn't matter much because last night my now ex-boyfriend and I broke up. He got really nasty and grabbed a hold of me and started yelling at me. I told him to leave me alone but he hurt my wrists so I'm done with him. I'm sure some of you think I deserved to be bruised but I don't think I need that type of guy. Thank you all again.
2007-09-10 23:17:57 · update #2
Wow! It's amazing that you have SO LITTLE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF! Your boyfriend should DUMP YOU.
It wasn't a misunderstanding...you flashed your breasts to boys at a party, and it wasn't the first time! You KNEW what you were doing!
How about this...grow up! And find some self-respect!
***UPDATE
Well, I'm glad your boyfriend finally got some sense and dumped you. With that kind of attitude, I'll see you in the porno movies sometime soon. You obviously don't have any respect for your body because you're not keeping your private things private! It's not being a *prude* to keep your shirt on and closed! Do you flash your h o l e too? Why not??? Aren't you proud of your body?! (Hypocrite!) Flashing serves no purpose other than to get noticed, and if you can't get noticed for other things and have to resort to flashing, then you have serious issues.
2007-09-10 08:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
I just have one question, why in the world do you feel you need to go around flashing guys? You must not have any respect for yourself or your boyfriend. You say he got mad at you for flashing other guys, so, with that knowledge you still go ahead and flash these guys when your boyfriend isn't around. Tell him the truth - he deserves no less. If he drops you, well...think on that the next time you think of showing your body off so casually.
2007-09-10 08:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey you just got busted, again, for doing something that you know your boyfriend is really not ok with you doing. You are in the dog house whether you tell the truth or not. I'd be honest with him if you value your relationship. But honestly, I'm questioning if you value your relationship as much as he would like in the first place. Girls don't usually pull out their boobies just because some guy told you to do it. And it is a big sign of disrespect on his behalf because your body is supposed to be reserved for just him, not for the whole world to see whenever they dare you to flash it to them.
2007-09-10 08:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by misty h 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? You can't be serious. Your BF got mad at you previously for flashing guys, then, on a dare, you flashed some more guys? Now your boyfriends P.O'D because he walked in on you sitting between two guys with your shirt undone? ROTFLMAO!!!! You are a riot! I can't believe that you're not calling him your "EX" boyfriend, because thats what he really should be! You don't learn! You need to be by yourself for a while. You don't appreciate having a boyfriend in your life. You also seem to have impulse issues, you might want to see a therapist about those. You don't have respect for yourself, no wonder you have absolutely none for your boyfriend. Grow up.............LOSER!!!
2007-09-10 08:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by grace95838 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why do you even have a boyfriend if you are going around flashing everyone the goods? Have some class, my dear. As for your boyfriend, you need to tell him the truth:: You did something stupid and inconsiderate, you probably aren't ready for a relationship right now because you have a lot of growing up to do, and it would be best if he found someone serious and mature. And someone with some sense of morality.
2007-09-10 08:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kris W 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, looks like you've got yourself a problem then. If you knew that this would upset your boyfriend in the first place, yet still went ahead and did it, what does that say about your feelings for him? Obviously his feelings don't matter too much to you if you can do something like that. What do you expect him to think finding you in between two guys with your shirt hanging open? What would you think if you walked in and saw him sitting with no pants on between two girls? I bet you'd be pretty upset. Put yourself in his shoes, and if he means anything at all to you, maybe you should start thinking before you do things like that.
2007-09-10 08:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by elizatash 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you know he gets mad at your for flashing people, why did you do it? You need to think before you do something stupid like that again. He has a right to be mad. It might be best to just tell your bf that you flashed those guys and be done with it. You did screw up though.
2007-09-10 08:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
if you truley care about this boy and want the relationship to last there is only one answer: tell him the truth and ask his forgiveness. relationships are built on trust and respect without it you have nothing. we are human and all make mistakes dont make the mistake thinking a lie will ever save you. it will come back on you ten fold. you were at a party don't think there is no one there that may say something then what do you say? the lie will hurt him much more than the act did.
2007-09-10 08:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Dodi 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing to explain. It's not a misunderstanding.
You were flirting with the other guys, whether you want to admit it or not. You did something that you know he doesn't appreciate it.
If you think you're so justified, then you should tell him that flashing guys isn't that big a deal (which I personally think is a load of nonsense.)
Otherwise, you need to admit that you've made a mistake and you need to look in the mirror.
2007-09-10 08:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Okay why are you flashing other guys anyway.....Their is really nothing you can say cause if you tell him the truth he will be mad and if you lie he will still not believe you. TOugh situation to be in, stop flashing and you wont be in this situation again.
2007-09-10 08:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by puertolinda2003 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋