I am from a small family but my husband has many sisters. We all live very far from each other. Each time we go to visit his mother, all of them would come to join us. All meaning 20 something people with hubs/bfs and kids. We all stay in a 2 bedroom place - you can image... One of the sisters - I will call her "Jane", would go wherever we go, with her kids and sometimes her husband too.
Jane would find out where we go for our vacation and would try to arrange their vacation to join us. Once we were at a cottage and she and two kids joined us the whole time. Another time we wanted to go to a beach place, she emailed us telling us that she wanted to join us with her family for 6 days. I really had enough of it so I emailed her back telling her that we would rather vacation alone. We stopped talked to each other since...
Am I being unreasonable or is she the problem?
2007-09-10 08:35:01 · 11 answers · asked by smeagolrocks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are being completely rational and kudos to you for finally telling her your real opinion. Maybe now you guys can have a better vacation.
2007-09-10 08:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by SurelySarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should do the telling , not you. It would have been better if he had told his sister re the 6 day visit. But thats done with. This is truly between you and your husband only. Do not talk with his family about it but rather be charming and gracious when you see them. Meanwhile, have a very important dinner discussion alone with your husband about your concerns for you marriage if this continues. Tell him you know that he would want to know if you arent happy ( if he doesnt already) and that he would want his immediate small family to have some quality time together)Yikes I can imagine in 2 bedrroms all those people. That is not a vacation
2007-09-10 08:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question is so ridiculous this is stressful to have faith this is actual. No rational guy could desire his mommy and sis to interfere on a cruise along with his spouse, much less call you egocentric for wanting that. His approach isn't strange. this is extremely insane. the guy has some deep, DEEP emotional matters that have left his view on life heavily skewed. At 37, there is little danger he will get well. Hmm... if he's non secular, quote scripture: "consequently a guy shall bypass away his mothers and fathers, and carry to his spouse..." i assume you're rather presently married. No rational lady could tolerate this in a guy for long.
2016-10-04 08:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by devoti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, but maybe your husband could try to patch things up so you don't toatally alienate the whole family. Given your situation, I would have done the same thing.
2007-09-10 08:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are over-thinking it. You have the right to do and say whatever you want to- period. If it hurts her feelings, that's her problem. No way would I want someone always vacationing with me all the time, especially if they just invited themselves.
So she stopped talking to you- sounds like you got your (secret) wish granted ;) kuddos!
2007-09-10 08:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by EazyBreezy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one shoud invite themselves to vacation with another family and I dont know why you tolerated it as much as you have. You did the right thing.
2007-09-10 08:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby should have told her that. She is the problem, but in matters of HIS family, it is always better if HE handles the sketchy stuff so you don't end up labeled as that, ummm, icky wife!
2007-09-10 08:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by naniannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your request is totally reasonable and that your sister in law needs to get a life!
2007-09-10 08:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's the problem and she has a problem. Vacation by yourselves and be glad she's not there.
2007-09-10 09:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right shes the problem
2007-09-10 08:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋