I started going to church and it has been about a month now, I asked my boyfriend to go to church with me and he doesn't want to go. He use to like church stuff and all but noe he doesn't want to go. I really want him to go with me but he refuses. Is this bad? What should I do?
2007-09-10 08:25:41 · 21 answers · asked by lizbeth 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
When one person in a relationship makes the commitment to serve God and attend services so that they can be edified, be around people who believe as they do, and have a learning and Holy experience, and their mate does not - look out - you are in for some disagreements. This is what the Bible refers to as being "unequally yoked". You can't make him go, and until he sees the need for himself, he won't. You are asking him to go with you and he does not share your views obviously about church and what goes on there. You might have to continue alone in this area of your life. If you are truly happy attending this church and hopefully, you are not just a 'bench' member - but are allowing yourself to be used to the service of others, you might find that he will either jump on the bandwagon and get with the program - or he will find someone else not as dedicated.
I have been through two marriages where we were not yoked in the spirit and neither of these men wanted to make the commitment as I had done. Needless to say - I am not married to either of them.
Whatever you do - please don't sacrifice your love for the Lord in exchange for the love of a man.
2007-09-10 08:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"About a month?"
You've gone four times? If he plays softball in the summer, he's probably done that more times alone than you've gone to church alone.
Give it more time.
Keep going, and when there's a church-sponsored event -- a picnic, or evening Bible study, or dance, or couple event, then invite him to do that.
You've not explained how long you've been dating or why he refuses, but you can try to get him involved when you have some other church event to invite him to. If he sees it's important to you, he should make it important to him. And if he doesn't, then you may have bigger issues than going to church alone.
Godspeed, and know that people are praying for you.
2007-09-10 16:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by jimmeisnerjr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to make his own choice--and so will you, eventually. Marrying someone who doesn't believe the same way you do is a very difficult thing to do--especially if you have children. I'm not saying one set of beliefs (or lack thereof) is better than another, just that life is much easier when the person you spend it with is of the same mind as you are.
Not spoken in judgement, just from experience and too many top of the lungs arguments over the past 14 years.
2007-09-10 15:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep going and continue to seek God. You shouldn't be unequaly yoked with an unbeliever. Meaning, he might take you out of church by his influences. God has someone great for you. Whether its your current boyfriend of someone else, let Jesus guide you into making the right descision. Never give up on God. He hasn't given up on you!
2007-09-10 15:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by pattscool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends.. If you're a Christian and he's not, or he's drifting away from the faith, the best thing to do would be to break off the relationship. You don't want to be unequally yoked. Take it from the person who wasted 5 years in the same kind of situation.
2007-09-10 15:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him more what exactly doesn't he like about church. Does he have faith? Is his faith a private matter? I don't find this bad; some people prefer to stay home instead of going to church for a variety of reasons. You'll have to respect his wishes regardless.
2007-09-10 15:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by CELTS! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pray for him. Then explain to him, it's okay if he doesn't want to go, and if he ever has any questions about going to church, you'll be happy to answer them. Pray for him. That's the best thing you can do for some one.
2007-09-10 15:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by sportznut05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep going. You can't make him go, and if you could it would make you both miserable. Try not to be angry at him for choosing not to go and continue to remind him you would love for him to go with you (without nagging) and he may decide to come on his own down the road.
2007-09-10 15:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like to go to church, go to church. If he doesn't like to go to church, he is fully within his rights to refuse to go.
2007-09-10 15:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Its bad in the sense that you guys have different views on what is important.
You need to know why he doesn't want to go.... maybe you need a different style of church service?
2007-09-10 15:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by vérité 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋