I am raising a little boy (he's 7 now) and I am curious to know what men today say about their childhood in regards to their mothers. Things like events that stick out in your mind or maybe things you wish would not have happened. Did she smother you too much? Or not enough? And how do you think that affects who you are today and your current relationship with her as an adult. Do you wish you could do anything different or that she had done something different? Or maybe she was great and you never wanted it any other way... what was so great?
2007-09-10 08:23:54 · 14 answers · asked by aniecelinan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also, as a side note... He has a great relationship with his father even though we are divorced. (We divorced before he was born so he has never known it any other way.)
2007-09-10 08:30:44 · update #1
My mom rocks!
Advice for you in dealing with your son...be patient. Be consistent. Set boundaries but not in stone. Allow him to explore and make mistakes. And make sure his dad treats you with respect!
2007-09-10 08:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would correct us a children till we got so big then it was more or less pa that done the correcting upon ma or his own request. They raised us pretty good. St so old an any time they did not smother us but things are not like they are now so freedom depends on where you are at. She asked as us being teens to let us know where we are going and to when we should be home and if not known where a number and such. This is to so if something happens to know where to look. They would worn us and advise but not be pushy. She taught us boys our share of how to do enough around the house to be more than self suficent. But dad did the same. To lead in a good way and your child will respect you when he gets old enough.
2007-09-10 08:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loved me enough to tell me about Jesus. She encouraged me in that direction.
Whatever my interests were, she found ways to feed it.
The quiet coversations around the dining table mean so much.
She passed away before I had a mind that was mature enough to understand things as an adult. I'd give both arms just to have her back for even five minutes.
2007-09-10 08:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was overprotective and in my case emotionally manipulative also supportive almost to blindness with no discipline, single parent hh. Everything no matter how sucky was great and i more or less did whatever i wanted. I don't mind doing what i feel like but it has not been a very normal path.
2007-09-10 08:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother rarely talked to us on a normal person to person level and kept lots of things from us, which was wrong. Her insecurity also left a mark - she was afraid of the telephone and of confronting people and this impacted of me as a youngster. Its difficult if not impossible to be a perfect parent. You just have to work at it and help your kids through the trials and tribulations of life based on your own best judgement. Just do not use them to live your life.
2007-09-10 08:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mom taght me how to think...I've done many things with my life,and look forward to adding to the list...the process of figuring out anything you may be faced with has given way to an over- specialized culture of people who can't deal...
2007-09-10 08:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by $andman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother taught me by setting a good example herself instead of just telling me to behave a certain way. She also rewarded me when I did something well, but not if I just asked for things.
2007-09-10 08:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by JeffyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom made the biggest impact which was called trust. Without trust, friendships and relationships fail.
2007-09-10 08:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom never really encouraged me. She always supported me but never encouraged. I just kind of made my own decisions and she never had a problem with them, but never made alternative suggestions. So, in my opinion, encourage him especially with things he is good at, whether it be art, music, sports, etc. Good luck.
2007-09-10 08:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
teach him to be himself! if u want him to be just like u then expect him to do everything u say. If he listens to u always he will make the same mistakes and choices u have. My mother alway taught me to listen to her reasoning but make my own decisions, yes they were the wrong ones sometimes but yet i grew up better than her and she is proud of wat i have become i am who i am and i never folowed the crowd so just remember the more u push the harder it will be for him to make his own decisions
2007-09-10 08:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by yoohoo2505 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋