does anyone else feel this way about their mom or dad?....?

Question

Well I recently have been thinking about it and I do not like my Dad. He isn't nice to me really. He says things like "quit being an idiot" and when I get in trouble, he yells so loud. There are SO many reasons why I don't like him but I'd rather not say all of them. I wish I had another Dad. And he will NEVER change I bet. Does anyone else not like their mom or dad?

Answer 1

I'm 30 and I still do not like my parents very much. I can remember being young and not liking them either. As long as neither of them are hurting you, I'm sorry to say you will have to just deal with it until you are old enough to move out. Maybe talk to your counseler at school or a teacher you like. I used to spend a lot of time at my friends house when I was younger, just find activities that you are allowed to do away from the house as much as possible. A lot of people on here might tell you to just talk to them, but I was in your shoes once and I know that doesn't always work. Try to stay out of trouble when you can, and wait it out. It will get better someday...even if it means moving out!

Answer 2

You do not mention your age. It is too bad you do not like your Dad, but he is still your Dad so get over it. He does not have to change, YOU have to change and accept him for what he is. If you were an adult you would understand this. As long as you are living with your mom and dad - as long as you are not supporting yourself financially - you will have to put up with them, right or wrong. Perhaps you have some traits that they do not like either. Always look at your own faults before you look at other peoples faults. Try not be be hostile and argumentative, try to show them the love you want to get from them. What kind of trouble have you gotten into? Perhaps that is why your Dad tells you to "quit being an idiot".

Answer 3

Always be honest to your parents and talk to them about your feeling and why you feel the way you do towards them. Often when families have issues, the issues are never truly openingly discussed. Try talking to your dad about your feelings towards him. Sometimes people get in a structured way of treating someone a certain way and sometimes the way the person is treated is not good and can carry on and on. Think why is it most kids got like their parents? I believe it is much better for a family to truly talk to each other and learn from one another. Just because a person is grown doesn't mean they do things right and still have a lot of room to learn.

Answer 4

You're definitely not alone in those feelings. I am also 30 and I still don't care much for my dad. I view him mostly as a jerk, and can't remember a time he was ever proud of anything, it was always "you could have done better if...". I do recognize how some of his jerky things helped make me smarter and more observant, but that doesn't make up for his just not ever truly being nice.

My mom I love and I'm greatful that I do have a good relationship with one of them... however we are still different people and while I enjoy talking with her, I don't like to spend a lot of time with her. Dealing with my dad most of her life makes her crabby and with short patience at times.

Hang in there, enjoy what bits you can and commit those things to memory. Ally with your mom or other adults you trust if you need people to talk to.

Answer 5

My father was an only child and after being 17-18years married to my mum, he still cannot understand that he is not the only one in here. He neglects his children, he is being cruel with them, he cannot break free from his old-fashioned ideas (like: people that have not friends are some kind of crazy) , he refuses to helps in the chores. This behaviour is not human and I am being in controvesy with him a lot of times. I tried to talk to him but he tried to convince me that I was wrong, by talking me about rubbish for several hours. He cannot change. He "forgets" things and brings not only me, but everyone into trouble! I am always mad at him, but he cannot understand, not alone change!
But he is still my dad, and I will always love him, no matter what.
Also, I have serious problems with my babylish 17 years old brother. But after those, life is still brilliant and good to me!

Answer 6

EVERY kid has those feelings about their mom and dad at some point, especially the teenage years.

Sometimes it helps to think about the other kids' parents. What do you like and not like about them? Are they better or worse than your own parents?

You might try writing Dad a letter asking him to speak more respectfully to you. You hinted at other reasons you dislike him but didn't want to mention. If its anything like sexual abuse, you MUST tell someone so you can get help. I hope its not that bad. Good luck

Answer 7

One thing you have to remember is the way he was brought up. People tend to mirror their parents behavior and say/do a lot of the same things no matter how hurtful. He is your father and he will not change unless all of you can commit to counseling. Just don't let it ruin your life. The day that you say something that he said to you to your own child you will probably pass out remembering this YA! conversation.

Answer 8

Trust me, I've had that feeling MANY times before with both of my parents. I, like you have sometimes even wished for a new family!But believe me, my parents are thinking on getting a divorce, and, although I kind of want them to cus it would be nice to be away form the arguing, I wont both my parents to stay together and I dont want a new family.

Answer 9

I hated my mom and dad when I was growing up. It seemed to me at the time that they were mean. But looking back I had a good childhood. I thought it was mean when I got a spanking, but it made me stronger. Remember what ever don't kill ya only makes you stronger.

Answer 10

I know how you feel...there are times (have been times) where I hate my parents and wanted to leave the house. or times where i asked myself why i was even living.... blah blah...Every One Has Family Problems. some are just more severe than others.

First, you need to ask your self...what am I doing that is causing my parents to yell at me and say such mean things to me?

This all depends on the situation of what you are doing, who your parents are, or what your family is going through altogether - example - financial problems, death, etc.

More liking your parents are fighting with you out of concern and frustration with the fact that you need to "grow up" . maybe you are not realizing your own behavior problems or bad habits....i don't know. you need to focus on what your doing, to figure out the problem.