I have a 12 year old sister. I am 20. I would like for us to spend time together. She has Asperbergers..?

Question

Any ideas? It is really hard to entertain her. She gets bored easy. And she isnt very social. I would like for us to spend more time together but it is just so hard to please her and I dont have a lot of money to spend.

I spelled her condition wrong. I think it is Aspbergers.... I dont know how to spell it! I hope you know what I am talking about!

Answer 1

I personally have Aspergers myself. It's different in everybody, though, so it's hard to handle my judgement. My advice is to leave her alone if she doesn't want company. Some children with Aspergers prefer being on their own. If she wants entertaining, I'd recommend something like a computer, game console or book.

It's normal if she has some kind of routine or seems to do things strangely, or different to how you would. I don't know this for sure, as it's different in everybody, but my advice is to respect the difference, and if she's doing something you find annoying, whatever you do, don't get angry.

Regards,

Rob.

Answer 2

Your sister is dear to you, and she should be.
So, do with her the same sorts of things you would do with anyone else, operating on her mental age level, and within her skills. The amount of time spent together need not be long. You're bound to come across a favorite of hers that she would love to repeat:
-- An hour to bake and eat a pizza together, while watching old Andy Griffith re-runs on TV
--A walk around a pond, then back home
--A huge pad of blank newsprint (from the art store or Walmart) and crayons or chalk or markers -- create posters for your room or hers. Cut-up magazines and a gluestick work well to for collages.
-- Maybe a game like Twister or use it as a bean-bag toss target.
-- Card games like Old Maid
-- Jenga stacking blocks that tumble down
-- A bag of popcorn and a funny movie
-- Take a walk and count the...cats...red cars...yellow houses...etc. Make it a challenge to see who can call it first.
-- She may like to pull up a pillow while you read a favorite book to her.
-- Making cookies
-- Take her with you to Buy colorful mugsor tea cups at yard sales or thrift shops, to store at your house. Keep the collection in a special place or box. When she comes over, let her tell you the story of where or why she chose each cup........then...........
-- Have 3+ types of flavored teas to choose from, and a jar
of honey to drizzle into it. Maybe a special Tea Spoon to swirl in her cup.

Answer 3

You may want to indulge whatever she's fixated on (find out what her obsessions are).

From MayoClinic.com:
"Help your child turn his or her obsession into a passion. The tendency to fixate on a particular narrow topic is one of the hallmarks of Asperger's syndrome, and it can be annoying to those who must listen to incessant talk about the topic every day. But a consuming interest can also connect a child with Asperger's syndrome to schoolwork and social activities. In some cases, kids with Asperger's syndrome can even turn their childhood fascination into a career or profession."