He always has different reasons, but the most common is that I used to share that house with my ex-fiance (with whom I have a kid with) and he isn't comfortable. What do you think? We have been dating for 6 months.
2007-09-10 05:34:56 · 14 answers · asked by Erin 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Stop going to his house and see if that changes his tune.
2007-09-10 05:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothing else
He'll trade the world
For the good thing he's found
If she's bad he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Tryin' to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way it ought to be
umm..not my words..but if this man loves you, he wouldn't make up lame *** excuses. Men in love brave angry fathers, police intervention, electric fences, deserts, wars, etc etc....and your guy can't walk through your front door because another man has been there? LAME
Unless you have photos of your ex everywhere...there is no reason for him not to feel perfectly comfortable in YOUR home. Is he going to treat your child poorly because its someone elses kid? If he is really immature, ask him to help you redecorate so that he doesn't feel that it is someone elses home. But honestly...this is an excuse....
best wishes
2007-09-10 12:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by TelulahB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope erin, as a guy i wouldn't b apprehensive about going 2 a house where u 'n ur ex-fiancee usta live. if he's truly outta the picture than the guy should have no problem going there, its not like he's gonna live there or anything. i think i'd sit him down and ask him to give his true reasons, not different reasons, but his TRUE reasons. if he says he has a problem with it then u should believe him, but if he gives other answers than that then u prolly already know the answer.
one question i have that u didn't address in ur question...when u go where he's at do u take ur child? if not, then when u want him 2 come 2 ur house is ur child there? if u don't take ur child 2 his house and ur child would b at ur house if he ever came over then it may b the child he doesn't want 2 "share" u with at ur house...just a thought.
2007-09-10 12:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mention your ex a lot to him? Think about it and if you do, do not do it anymore.
Maybe he feels like you have unresolved issues and you really should get to the bottom of this if you wish to continue this union.
Look around your place. Besides your child, are there any other signs of your ex in the place? If you have family pictures with you, your child and your ex, that could create a vibration like he is still there.
I know it sounds hokus pokus, but a vibration of someone that you used to live with can stay in your place if you do not "clean" properly.
Besides doing a super spring cleaning, you might want to discard anything that would indicate that you still have something more than business partners (parents) with your ex.
Another consideration is burning sage incense to "cleanse" any negative energy. Once you have done that, open your windows and air out your home. Also, if he has given you anything that you can put out in the main part of your home, do so as he will feel welcome and that you have something of his (that he gave you like a stuffed animal) put it out for all to see.
Communication with you beau is the key here. Usually a boyfriend is more than happy to spend time with his girlfriend at her place. Sometimes, they want to be there all of the time!
If he dodges/refuses the conversation about him visiting, then something else is going on and you might consider moving on in that case.
Best regards.
2007-09-10 12:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by L M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you answered your question.
"the most common is that I used to share that house with my ex-fiance (with whom I have a kid with) and he isn't comfortable"
He wants your relationship to be new and not with parts of your old.
2007-09-10 13:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It could be that he is just uncomfortable with coming over. It could also be that there is something else going on that he isn't mentioning. I would talk about it with him, it's the only way to get an honest answer. Keeping open lines of communication is the best way to keep and open and honest relationship. If this guy can't get over it then maybe you should try to start getting over him lovey.
2007-09-10 13:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by bubblestea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is going to grow into something more permanent, you need to find a new place to live. No man or woman for that matter what's to share space where another lover has been
2007-09-11 02:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you've already guessed that the ex-fiance excuse is just that, an excuse. There's another reason, and only you can discover what it is.
2007-09-10 12:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could associate not coming over to your house for that reason...or maybe he's got other "plans".
It shouldn't matter if he cares about you...sounds like a lame-*** excuse.
2007-09-10 12:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by gobraghomagh 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm honestly surprised he's still dating you after finding out you still live with your ex. I would have been out of there long ago.
No guy wants to deal with your baggage.
You answered your own question.
2007-09-10 17:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋