How do you let them know you're fed up with their attitude without offending them?
One of my work colleagues saps my positive energy with his continual complaints, it's a beautiful day and he's moaning about it being nearly winter time.
Tomorrow it'll be something else!!
He's the kind of bloke who would find something wrong with paradise! I can't think how his 'missus' puts up with him, really I can't. Shall I just tell him outright, ***** you're a miserable malcontent, get over yourself? or shall I just continue to put up with him??
2007-09-10 05:30:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i also hate being in the company of moaners but love grumbling myself, its double standards for me.
2007-09-10 05:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 20:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to let his attitude 'sap' your positive energy. Keep the fact that he is always negative in mind when dealing with him, and don't let him bother you. In fact, use it as an example to feel good about yourself and be glad that you have a better attitude.
You can try and encourage your colleague to be more positive by responding to negative comments with positive ones. If the complaint is about winter approaching, mention something about how much fun you'll have skiing (or whatever is appropriate to your situation).
Really, though, there's probably not a lot you can do. Even if you said something to him, it probably wouldn't change anything. Complainers like to complain.
The only thing you can change is your attitude about his complaining.
~Kyanna
2007-09-10 05:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kyanna S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I used to think i moaned a lot but i now realise they are a lot of miserable gits in life. I think sometimes you have to accept that their are alway going to be people like that in life. You cannot change them, they can only change themselves. Just don't energise his comments by nodding your head or agreeing as it will only make him continue, if you just stay silent and maybe try to divert his thought then he may stop being so negative. I think most people deep down want positive things in life but are drawn into negativity by the day to day 9-5 rat race life brings. You just have to stick it out.
2007-09-10 09:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by --- SXY --- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. People who can leave you with a spring in your step are very rare. No one wants to feel down after a conversation. I stand with the lollypop lady every day because i refuse to go to school and wait. She is the ultimate gossip and the ultimate bloody moaner and whinger. Yet i can talk to a happy person content with their life and walk away with a smile. The kind of person you remember a long time after.
2007-09-10 06:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LoL. I think every job has one or two of these people. At my job, we call them "Poopypants". They seem to suck the life out of everything and everyone around them.
At my job, one guy in particular was/is like this. Everymorning, I give him the biggest smile, cheeriest hello, and ask about his day. For every negative thing he says I make him say two positive things, and if not he has to buy me a coke or candy bar. Now at first, I was stocked up on cokes and candy bars---but he finally figured out it was cheaper just to humor me. I also told him not to come in my office if he doesn't come in with a smile. He usually fakes it, but it worked. Over the past month, his attitude has improved drastically and he rarely says negative things around me anymore. He's even more cheerful genuinely. I just gave him a little encouragement to like himself and gently let him know his attitude wasn't acceptable nor tolerated around me. He's getting there.
By the way, I work at a gravel pit/mine where I'm the only female. Maybe that's why it worked, but it worked!
Good Luck, and don't give in or up!
2007-09-10 05:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by jamierella 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't let them grumble for long. Find something to laugh about. Tell something funny that happened to you. Change the subject as soon as they start to whine. If that fails then you have to make an excuse and walk away. They can't grumble without an audience. Good luck.
2007-09-10 05:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Miz D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just turn the other cheek -we have no clue as to what is going on in these people's lives that has made them so miserable that they make everyone around them miserable-maybe on purpose since misery loves company-but it is doubtful that telling them off will get through to them so be the witness you are meant to be.
If that is getting to be impossible-avoid them if possible! (Note...I have just given conflicting answers,haven't I)-least I'm not grumbling.
2007-09-10 07:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by marlynembrindle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's being a miserable git and see if honesty jolts him out of this state. It might be he has problems that he's not willing to share, and maybe just maybe will come clean. Other than that ignore him.
2007-09-10 05:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all avoid him when and where ever possible. If avoidance is not possible then tell him that you wish quite so you can concentrate. If that does not work give him a quarter and tell him to call some one who might care about his grumbles.
2007-09-10 05:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by Coasty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately my Hubby is one of those blokes. Since elementary school his teachers have called him "complaining Calvin". It fits him so perfectly. I am constantly correcting him and trying to get him to stop being so darned pessimistic. I still love him dearly though, we all have our faults. Sometimes I think I am a bit too much of a dreamer so he keeps me even keel.
2007-09-10 17:14:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋