The wife decided it was a good idea to look after a couple of kids as shes not working at the min and it would be some money, Anyway I really really hate it, We have 2 kids of our own and they all get on well, One of the kids is a little baby and doesn't give much trouble, the other is a 5 year old and really needs to learn some manners, child or not he's a complete tool, Even the look of him is hilarious, he has big ears like satellite dishes, big buck teeth, the kid was definitely tarred with the ugly brush.
I come in and have my dinner, he just sits in a constant stair looking at you eat which is really off putting, he comes out with smart remarks like my wife offered him a drink of orange juice, his response was "No I don't want your stinking juice" he tries to get my youngest in to trouble, child or not I really detest him, he really needs to learn manners.
My wife just takes his **** where as I be smart back to to him, whats the best way to handle this situation?
2007-09-10 05:17:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The looks he should grow out of, but the manners HAVE to be learned. Your wife needs to get some bollocks. No one should be spoken to in that way. She should not only discipline that child when things that are inappropriate are said, but she needs to speak to the child's parents. Be sure they understand that either their child's behavior changes or they will be finding a new sitter.
Your children will see that this kid gets away with it and they may begin the same bad behaviors. Nip it in the bud now, before it causes a bigger problem.
2007-09-10 05:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Lol... I Can See Why You Would Think This Could Work. But Unfortunatley Your Kids Phisical Appearence Will Be Determined On You And Your Wifes Genes. I Just Want To Tell You A Little Story. I Have A Mate And He Is Rediculously Amazingly Good Looking. But His Real Birth/Blood Parents Are So Ugly! Most Of The Time The Appearence Of Your Kids Will Be A Shock To You. No Matter What You Do You Cant Change The Look Of Your Kids...Nature Has Already Decided And She Aint Gonna change Her Mind. Just Be Happy With The Way Your Kids And your Wife Looks. If There Happy So Should You Be. Dont Worry About Phisical Appearence. It Dont Matter. I Hope This Helped.
2016-05-21 03:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! It's not a good idea to get smart with this kid. It'll only reinforce his bad behavior and put you on equal footing. He could be a bad influence on your children and his own infant sibling. He should be corrected each and every time he's rude. Even his starring should be corrected. Now, the difficult part is that you have to restrain yourselves and correct him in a firm, but kind manner. You're the adults and have more control over yourselves, knowledge, experience and wisdom. Kids know that adults know more than they do. It makes them feel unsafe and disappointed when the adults around them don't have things under control. It's up to you to put your feelings aside and do the right thing. This isn't the end of the personality road for this child. You have the opportunity to help bring him to a better place. Keep him busy with structured activities like painting, reading, tag, number and letter games. These kinds of activities will have rules and will not only occupy him, but reinforce that he has to be mannerful to others. He may even remember his time with you fondly and acknowledge how bratty he was before coming to your home. His parents need to be alerted to his behavior and how it could influence the other children- they may step up and begin to correct him more at home.
2007-09-10 05:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lovey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to tend some wild children. I let them know at my house we have rules just like at their house. I told them my rules are different then the rules at their house. We went through the rules and the consequences for breaking them. If they made a mess, they had to clean it up. They should be simple and easy to remember. Here are a few of mine
1. Don't hurt people. Consequence- do something nice for that person. Example: Draw them a picture and give it to them.
2. Don't break things. Consequence- Unitentional- help clean up the mess if capable. Intentional- Earn the value of the broken object to replace it. Example: They can do small things to help out around the home to earn the money to replace the object. Don't make it too hard. Just enough to help them understand why it is important to take care of things.
3. Don't leave messes. Consequence-Clean up your messes
4. Follow instructions. Consequence- sit in a designated area until ready to follow instructions.
5. Speak Respectfully. Consequence- Say 3 nice things about the person whom they offended.
6. No fits or whining. Consequence- They do not get what they want for the whole day.
These are just a sample. It worked well for me, but what works for one may not work for the other. I make sure to have the consequence fit the negative behavior. It teaches responsibility and self control. Good Luck!
2007-09-10 05:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by debepta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me, but possibly he senses what you think about him? The best way to treat him is to actively involve him in your activities, if you're eating your dinner how about asking him how his day was, an attitude like this is a child is defence mechanism. He is rude to you because he knows you dont like him and he doesn't want to risk being nice and then being ridiculed. You are cruel about his physical appearance, you are an adult, he is a small child. This is bullying. How the hell someone is sending their children in to this kind of atmosphere is beyond me. Take a step back and review the situation. If youre children were with a child minder and being spoken about in this way or treated this way by an adult what would you want to happen? On the other side of the coin, what are his parents like for him to behave this way? Please don't blame this child. Children are never ugly.
2007-09-11 23:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by snaffle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, something you need to learn now for the sake of your own children : acting like a child only makes the issue worse.
Children dont just become like this on their own, their parents allow it, and by not correcting it consistently they encourage it. You acting smart back to him only encourages that behavior. He's annoying, and his behavior is incorrect, but hes a child, he acts that way because he doesnt know how to act in another way, or else he hasnt be made to act right.
Your wife is doing an honorable thing for you, to help out with the finances by raising her own children and taking care of others. Dont belittle her in it, I know its annoying that she has them, but she's trying her best.
You should encourage her to help the child learn proper behavior, and then both of you should expect it from him while he's in your home. Both of you should speak with the parents, and discuss things like time outs and requirements of the child while in her care.
The next time he acts ugly towards you, instead of encouraging it, see him as the misguided child he is and do him the favor of teaching him how he should behave. He's a child and he needs love. If he acts smart you need to remind him that thats an ugly way to talk to an adult, and he shouldnt say such things. Tell him he's a cool kid and you like him being in your home, and you know he can behave better than that, since he's not a bad kid.
build up his confidence, the only reason he would act that way is because he is insecure.
2007-09-10 05:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, to tell you the truth, kids are kids and they;ll always be kids. And don't hate him for his manners because it comes from the home he's from. Your kids are much younger than he is and they might turn out worse. So, it's either you have your wife give up that hobby and pay more attention to your kids or you and her sit down and talk of how you're gonna helo this little boy with his attitude. Sometimes, the home they come from has nothing to do with it because as soon as they start going to school, they hear and listen to other kids. So, you'd be doing his parents a big favor if you could help teaching him some manners and try not to treat him different from others because you don't know how your kids are gonna turn out later on in life. he's just stubborn and looking for some attention and obviously you're giving it to him. If he's nowhere near danger, try to ignore him a little. If this doesn't help, then give the damn kid back to his parents. lol. Just kidding.
2007-09-10 05:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by lucy_babbie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should have a talk with your wife and address your concern and disliking over the child and maybe you should consider teaching her manners just like you taught your kids to behave. Kids will always be kids.. they will always try to test the limit of patience you have but as an adult, you should show affection and not do the same thing he does. Maturity, patience and affection are needed to help the child. Be patient and try to show him some affection while teaching him the way you want him to act, he'll listen. It may take a while but its gonna be worthwhile. Good luck.
2007-09-10 05:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by brwnsuga 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The looks shouldn't matter, some people are just unfortunate in that department. The manners, though, that is concerning. Have you tried speaking with the child's parents? Tell them if it doesn't improve, then he will not be able to be watched at your home any longer. Does your wife tell the child that his behavior is unacceptable? Tough situation.
2007-09-10 19:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by kendi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle this situation is to behave like a responsible caring adult when you are with this child (and any children). If you feel he is being rude, then teach him not to be rude. He's a kid. He doesn't know how to behave instinctually - he has to learn.
2007-09-10 06:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋