How often do moms hear from their adult sons when they have not had a close relationship growing up?

Question

Informal poll for moms out there. If you weren't close to your son growing up - how often do you hear from him as an adult? Do you have to initiate the contact or does he more often?

Answer 1

My wife and I both have this problem. We have a grown up son, who has not responded to any of our letter, phone calls, emails, etc. We were not very close because when he was young he was very difficult to handle. So we sent him to a boarding school. He has always lived away since he was 13. And then after high school he moved far away to college and we have not seen him since. Last we heard he got married, divorced, and ............ So the answer to your question...how often? not that often. Not at all, in fact.

Answer 2

Polls and satistics are a nice way to figure out how bad everyone else is doing, but they dehumanize a very human problem. Look at them, weren't able to handle kiddo, sent him to boarding school, and wonder why he won't talk to them? I mean come on, I'd be FULL of regert, guilt, vindiction, and ALL kinds of bad feelings for my parents if they gave up on me that easy. Them aside, this is a constant delima in which parents wash there hands of being able to help their kids once they hit puberty, leaving the kiddo to take up the rest, since they've been in PEER conflict with there parents the only reason keeping them tethered would be the heart, which any parent that stays that far away, MEANS. There wasn't much heart their to began with. Really the simple salution is to the understanding of how important family is, its not second to money, sex, or acmplishments. It is the purpose of life, selling that short is what causes this....