i want him to be free with me.i want him 2 b frendly with me.(but i feel nervous to talk with him,i like him but i feel nervous&even he feels the same i think)
2007-09-10 04:34:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you feel this way, he should not be your fiancee. Bottom Line, you aren't ready to get married.
2007-09-10 04:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK I don't know what country you're in - but here in the US - if you're not comfortable with your fiance, you have absolutely no business marrying him.
That said, since some cultures still arrange marriages - and this may be the case. SO, here are things that you might want to discuss.
Today's modern ideas about women working, husbands helping raise children, etc. - and how to marry more traditional ideas.
How your two families can blend together to make one.
Where you wish to live - with family or by yourselves.
Your mutual careers - what if one or the other of you is offered a professional opportunity too good to refuse - and it could be the wife who gets the offer...
How you both feel about children and family. What about birth control and family planning?
How you both feel about your faith - or faiths if you're from different backgrounds.
Look for things you have in common - there are a lot of things you will see differently about - so looking for grounds where you agree is crucial - that's always a safe place to start and to return to.
2007-09-10 12:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this an arranged marriage?
I knew a girl who had an arranged marriage. Luckily they grew to like one another.
Use questions. The only way to start a relationship of any kind is to find things out about the other person. If you are already living together I suggest making dinner and start with conversation. You have to find a common interest. Find a common hobby or interest and maybe attend a class or program or club that has to do with that hobby, that way you can become acquanted with one another and have a good time and loosen up with each other because you will both be doing something that you like and can share your thoughts on. That's how you will become more comfortable. Good Luck.
2007-09-10 11:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by DanceCat Squiggy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is an arranged marriage, I hope it will get better as you get to know one another. If it is a traditional western-style marriage, you shouldn't be marrying someone you feel uncomfortable with.
2007-09-10 11:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is: Why are you planning on marrying someone that you aren't comfortable talking to? Communication is the glue that holds marriage together.
2007-09-10 11:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sydney 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are engaged to be married to this person - you stated, "you like him and you are nervous to talk with him". My question is why are you engaged to him. You need to rethink this situation.
2007-09-10 11:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by NAN G 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you should marry him. The issues will only get more complex.
2007-09-10 11:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need pre-marital counseling.
2007-09-10 11:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by clg1975 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it means that you are loving each others.
2007-09-10 11:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by LadyAnis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋