2007-09-10 04:28:07 · 40 answers · asked by Josh B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as you realize that his kids will always be number one to him, it is all right.
2007-09-10 04:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by bgee2001ca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the guy is what I'm looking for I don't care if he has kids. But if he has kids he better take an active role in their lives. I would assess his parenting abilities by how he is with the kids he has and since I want kids if he isn't in their life I would assume he would be a bad father. I know some women have a problem with it because they don't want all the baggage but many women love kids and are willing to put in the effort for a great guy.
2007-09-10 04:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not against dating a guy with kids and I have in the past.
A woman just has to factor in that she is sharing her man with more people. She will get less attention and the kids may not like daddy having a girlfriend and it may be difficult to deal with. Also, personally I don't want to be anyone's mommy. When I have my own children I will be a great mom but not for someone else's.
It is also a tie to the man's ex and the fact that he most likely has to deal with his ex on a regular basis may make a woman jealous and it could be tricky if the ex is having problems with your current boyfriend.
2007-09-10 04:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by PhoenixRising 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably be wary. If he is a great guy AND a great father, maybe. If his kids live with their mother and he rarely sees them, no way. A person should view any person they date as a potential parent. I know someone that was a single mother and the fool went on to have another kid with another deadbeat who doesn't bother with his kids.
2007-09-10 04:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by RedTan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are factors to consider...does he have full or primary custody? How many are there? What are the ages? What kind of "kids mom" baggage is he dealing with? If she's got primarly/full custody are they battling about child support or is he paying so much he has little money for anything else?
In general I don't have an issue dating a guy that has kids, but there are things about the situation that might turn me off.
2007-09-10 04:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as the girl understands that kids are your priority it should be okay. You have to make sure that she is willing to share your time. Hopefully you'll find someone who is not selfish and willing to take on the responsibility of a child and not think of the your kid/kids as just the boyfriend's kids, but as a team effort.
2007-09-10 04:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a problem dating a guy that has kids. I'm adult enough to understand that the kids need to come first in his life, and if he treated me well, what's the problem? I do want to have kids one day, and would (if things went that far) love his kids as much as my own.
2007-09-10 04:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by elizatash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rather not date a guy with kids. I mean, I don't mind dating him as long as we both know I'll not marry him. Marriage is complicated enough as it is with no kids at all. I broke with a great guy I had dated for a year because his kid was out of control and the ex wife was psycho and tried to make our lives impossible through her little girl who was obviously trained to make us miserable.
2007-09-10 04:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by 5324 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was he married? Was he in a committed relationship with the mother once upon a time? Is there more than one woman for these children of his?
I would not be opposed to dating a man with children (as I have my own already)however, the questions posed above would be definately first date questions; and depending on those answers, would determine if I continued dating that man.
2007-09-10 04:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm with the most amazing guy right now & he has a beautiful little girl.
As long as he's able to love both girls & not continuously shaft the girl he's dating for his child, then it's great. He needs to involve his new gf as much as he can with his daughter, so she feels like he sincerely wants her to be a part of their lives.
Before getting into this relationship, I knew it would be complicated...especially since his daughter's mother is so mean. I absolutely love my boyfriend & seeing what an amazing father he is, has strengthened that love for him.
Always involve the gf & never lie to her when it comes to your past. Best of luck to you, darling!
2007-09-10 04:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't look at the fact that he has kids, just at what type of guy he is. Kids really wouldn't be a factor for me and if I am looking long term relationship I would definately want to know if he'd want to have kids with me. Everyone is different though but for me it wouldn't bother me.
2007-09-10 04:34:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋