Me and my future wife are having problems getting our rehearsal dinner planned. I want to have a small gathering of the wedding party plus a few extras like the mothers and pastor ect. My fiancée wants to have this huge BBQ at the park with everyone from both families there. Which is more in the line of how a rehersal dinner should go. Any advise.
2007-09-10 04:24:37 · 12 answers · asked by Kevin C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Traditionally the rehearsal dinner is to include the wedding party, their partners/dates/family and parents from both side. This is usually done immediately after the rehearsal. During that time the bride and groom give presents to all those standing up or taking part in the wedding. Even though this is traditional it doesn't mean you have to do it that way. You need to compromise on something you both want and not worry about tradition.
2007-09-10 04:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Orion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The rehersal should be taken seriously so that everyone will know what to expect the next day, but the dinner can be lighthearted. I had mine at an asian restaurant, and a friend had hers at a Mexican place... complete with matching sombreros for the bride and groom! As far as the video games go, you need to think about the ages of the majority of the attendants. If most of the participants are younger, they'll probably enjoy the casual venue more and have a chance to unwind before the big day. If most of the guests will be older, however, they may feel uncomfortable in that environment. Mostly though, you do want to honor the wishes of the bride and groom, since it is their wedding after all!
2016-05-21 02:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had one this past Friday. Traditionally or as some of us still look at it "Back In the days" A rehearsal dinner involves the following, bridal party and parents. My nephew's rehearsal dinner consisted of the "bridal party" both the groom and bride's parents and yes there can be extra guests if invited by the bride and groom. Remember groom to be..this comes out of your pocket or the brides parents. My nephew did invite a few extras.. and they paid for this dinner. I have also noticed that your bride's suggestion to have a BBQ is not the first but the first to invite the entire clan. I personally think is beautiful...After my nephew's wedding some close friends and family members that came from out of town went out to continue the celebration. Sunday was an early brunch and farewell to family and friends...a special surprise to the groom's mom photos with her mom, grooms grandmother who due to an illness could not be at the wedding but they instead went to her. Congratulations and Good luck!
2007-09-10 05:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Rehearsal dinners usually aren't big gatherings - depending on the size of your family. You're supposed to include the wedding party and their significant others, as well as both of your families and any out of town guests. I've been included in rehearsal dinners on numerous occassions for the sole reason that I'm either a relative (cousin) or attending the wedding from out of town.
2007-09-10 04:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the rehearsal dinner consists of the wedding party and their dates (husbands, wives, or boy/girlfriends) and immediately family members (parents, grandparents, siblings, and step family). It's kinda like a thank you to all the people in the wedding party for helping with the big day.
What's the point of a big party with both families if there is going to be another big party (the reception) the next day. It's kinda overkill.
2007-09-10 05:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a copy of a wedding planner book. Usually Brides Magazine explains it. The rehearsal dinner is for the bride and groom, their parents, the bridal party and spouses or dates, and out of town guests. The wedding reception is the party for everyone. Unless it is a destination wedding, and then all bets are off, do your own thing.
2007-09-10 04:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiancee is probably more on the right track. Generally, you invite both families, the wedding party and their dates or spouses. You may also invite out of town guests (as a way to spend more time with them and thank them for coming). After the rehearsal itself, you have the dinner and possibly some toasts. It's just a chance for everyone to relax, have fun and get to know one another. This is also a good time to give your gifts to the bridal party.
2007-09-10 04:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rehearsal dinners are generally smaller. It's the bridal party w/ their dates (wives, husbands, boyfriends, etc) Plus, the bride and groom, their parents, siblings, grandparents and sometimes out of town guests.
I would say, the rehearsal dinner should last no more then 3 hours. Keep it short and simple. Don't have heavy food the night before the wedding.
2007-09-10 04:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to you and your fiancee. Typically, I think it is usually just the wedding party and immediate family. That's all that will be included in our rehearsal dinner. But if you want to invite more, that is fine.
2007-09-10 04:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by clg1975 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mingling between the families...
Gifts for the wedding party are distributed.
Dinner... Toasting....
Typically it is paid for by the Groom's family.
I'd say that you should invite the wedding party PLUS anyone who came in from out-of-town for your wedding... As a courtesy. (Often this ends up being a large enough gathering that it is on par with what your fiancee is planning)
2007-09-10 04:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by Andrew Wiggin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋