2007-09-10 04:01:16 · 10 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes. They need to see how you as a family handle death. It is a part of life and unavoidable at times....they need to experience it and learn how to deal with it in a healthy way.....it also teaches them respect for life and that we are not invincible beings......for example....that's why we sit in out carseat and not bouncing all over the car--b/c mommy loves you and doesn't want to lose you.
2007-09-10 04:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Britt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Older children should go to the funeral of a grandma or grandpa, but yours are still pretty young. They may be frightened - especially if there is an open casket. They don't need to "say goodbye" - they won't understand. I would get a sitter for the service, and possibly have them come to the reception afterwards. In my experience, that's the part where they heavy-duty crying is over, and people talk to each other, and tell stories about good times with the deceased. There is usually some food (cookies, punch,etc.) that the kids can have.
2007-09-10 09:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important to let them say good by if they were close or saw him a lot. You will have to explain to them that he is no longer here. It is hard for young children to understand death, but it is a very important life lesson .
When my dad passed away, my little brother was 4, for the longest time he would want to stop at the funeral home ever time we went by it, that was the last place he remembered seeing dad and wanted to stop and see him.
I would not take them to the funeral its self,it is a very emotional time, and seeing everyone else upset will only make the kids that much more upset, but try to give them a time to say good by before the service.
My deepest sympathy for your loss. Good luck with the kids
2007-09-10 04:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by mpstephens13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they should attend. They are part of the family unit and it is natural that questions may arise and explain to them what happen. God called your stepdad home.
2007-09-10 12:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by zdude_4u 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, death is truely and regretfully a part of life. my grandpa died and my kids were 3 & 1.5 but they needed that closure the same way I did. they need to say goodbye too.
2007-09-10 04:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by hollabac girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they were close to him they need to say good bye. If they weren't that close they don't need to be exposed to death more then they have to.
2007-09-10 04:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are so young. I would leave them with a sitter for this one. Sorry about your loss.... :(
2007-09-10 05:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by ~Kim~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they would be too young to experience something like that
2007-09-10 04:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if they were close to him they should go.
2007-09-10 04:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
2007-09-10 05:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by Cat onahottinroof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋