If your boyfriend said on your (20th) b'day weekend he was going to give you a promise ring, then he calls and says it won't be shipped until a few days afterwards. How would you feel? What would your response be? Should I just be happy I am getting one and shut up?
I just held the phone in disbelief. Please help me we are totally in love and I don't want him to feel bad beause of the shipping date, but I want my ring too!!! lol
2007-09-10 03:58:01 · 63 answers · asked by Queen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not selfish or angry. I just wanted to ask the question. Thanks everyone who answered my question it really helped I can't wait to call him. Some people can be so rude. I can wait on the ring.... I am anticipating that (late) day now!!!!!lol
Thank you
2007-09-10 04:20:06 · update #1
The same thing happened to me. I'm still somewhat sad that I'm not going to get my ring on my actual birthday, but I am happy that I'm still getting one. You should be happy too, and dont' worry, just because he's giving it to you late doesn't mean that he doesn't want to keep his promise.
2007-09-10 04:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by megcapri1107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be HURT and disappointed, but I don't think I'd be angry, if I knew he'd put the order in on time.
I know what you mean...a promise ring IS a big deal, no matter if you get it for your birthday or WHAT....
I can tell you a little ring story that might make a difference to you....so maybe you can see a little more...
My now-ex and I (and our sons) were stationed in Germany when he was sent to the Gulf (during Desert Storm). It was right at Christmas time, so you can imagine our disappointment as we had missed the previous Christmas with him as well. Well, a big box that we had ordered for the boys' Christmas came and, as I was wrapping all the presents for our sons, out tumbled a littlebitty box. Not remembering what all was on our order form, I opened it (the boys were at school, by the way, so didn't know the box had come, THANK GOODNESS)...and it was a ring I'd not ordered, but my then-husband had...it was a Family Ring that'd I'd mentioned I wanted, with all our birthstones on it. And it came on the very day he was shipped out!!!! First call we got to make to one another, his FIRST question (after the inevitable "Are you and the boys alright?") was "Did you find it?" TALK about CRYING BUCKETS.
So, yeah...be disappointed, but remember...this guy adores you and he's probably as miserable as you are that your ring...the ring HE wants you to have, didn't get there on Your Special Day...but, honey, you and he will make the day it DOES get there even more special.
Bless you both.
2007-09-10 04:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I have to say that "promise rings" are for little puppy-love-struck 11-13 year olds. By your 20s, the only ring the two of you should be worrying about is an ACTUAL engagement ring. If the two of you aren't ready to get married quite yet, hold off on buying rings. It's just that simple. There are other tokens he could get you to show that he cares.
Secondly, you should be happy that he's thoughtful enough to get you such a token. He said it's being shipped. You're getting it! What's the big deal?! Wow, it'll be a few days late. So what?!? I'm sure you wanted everything to happen on your birthday so it could be that much more special, but just calm down and wait those few days.
2007-09-10 04:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok....wow.
First, IMO promise rings are useless. A promise ring is nothing more then puppy love in my eyes. It does not equal a marriage proposal and is equivalent to a guy giving his class ring to a girl in the 50's ("going steady" as my mom tells me)
You are investing too much time and thought into something that doesn't have an face value. You should not be in disbelief, it's crazy.
Secondly, if you really love him; then it would not matter when the ring comes. If the ring is delayed a week by shipping, then you should be OK with that. It's NOT the end of the world.
You are investing too much thought into the ring. The ring isn't going to make him love you anymore. Having it on your finger isn't going to make you instantly closer.
If this was an engagement ring and it suddenly was "unavailable" then I might be concerned about him having second thoughts.
But, it's a promise ring. Don't hold any meaning.
2007-09-10 04:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depend on the situation like his character: do you wait the last minute to get something done more likely he waited for the last minute to order the ring, what about his character is he thoughtful, consider, has he done this before. Is this the first time. It
also depend on when he order the ring. If he wait the last minute to order. Only you can answer that. Do you know him?You have the right to get disappointed/angry. If he has order the ring & the company can't get the ring to him on time. This is not his fault. It out of his hands.You sound like you being a little bit selfish. You are acting like a child. If the ring going to come later. It the little things that count. Have he cook you dinner or took you out to dinner, took you to the movies, etc. All of these things would let you know he thought of you on your B-day until you get his ring.
2007-09-10 04:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be disappointed to a small extent. He shouldn't have told you about the ring in the first place until he had it in his hands but keep one thing in mind. Most men particularly younger ones don't think about things like this and don't even pause to consider that you might be upset. You have to train him how to communicate with you and understand how things affect you. It's not his fault that the ring is delays so don't be mad about that and let it go but you could let him know that you were so excited and it's a little disappointing that it's late without laying any guilt trips or making him feel bad. One of the keys to a strong healthy relationship is having open communication. Don't blame, shout or cry about what is out of your control just make the best of it and maybe suggest that in the future you would prefer he not make big announcements without the goods to avoid feeling disappointment. Thank him for at least telling you otherwise it would feel worse if he just didn't give it to you or tell you at all. He was at least thinking that much ahead. Congratulations and Happy Birthday.
2007-09-10 04:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this a wind-up? Let me get this straight. Your boyfriend has bought you a ring that will be there in a few days.
Why exactly are you upset?
In the rest of the world there are......
People living alone.
Old people watching their loved ones die after 40 -50 years of marriage then wondering why they are "hanging on".
Some people don't have enough clean water.
There are some who will go to bed hungry.
Some have been so badly abused in life that they will never know how to love and therefore may not ever attract someone.
Some will never get the courage to tell that special someone how they feel and will watch as the person they fancy marries someone else.
Some may even do charity work today.
Some may save a life.
Some may turn their lives around.
Now then, why are you upset because your boyfriend has bought you a ring?
I must be a fool because I'd be over the moon if someone loved me enough to buy me a "promise ring".
People like you break my heart.
2007-09-10 04:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I can see how you may be a little disappointed that he waited until the last minute and then didn't have time to get it before your birthday. But y'all are young. He probably had been thinking about it for a long time and just didn't know it would take so long to arrive. If you love him and are happy, don't worry about the ring being a few days late. Enjoy it and your sweet boyfriend! Happy birthday :)
2007-09-10 04:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you LOVE him then why can't you wait for the ring. He was brave enough to tell you that the shipping date is a few days after your 20th? I mean he has a good enough heart to get you a promise ring. Why should you be made? Be happy because he's getting you. Love should be with or without a ring or any materialistic item- don't you think. ? Don't be mad, I bet if he controlled the day the ring came he would give it to you earlier.
Good Luck!
2007-09-10 04:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by Bella Luna 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He was honest and didn't want you to be disappointed when you didn't receive it on your birthday, which shows that he cares about your feelings and clearly loves you. Would you rather have the ring than the boyfriend? The company shipping date is beyond his control.
On my 20th birthday, my boyfriend (now ex) threw me a party, then after it was over slept with another girl. So yeah, you do sound a tad on the whiny side. Life could be wayyy worse than having to wait a couple days for your fabulous present.
2007-09-10 04:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋