What can i do?

Question

when you just want to be normal and fit in in society, have friends, be liked, admired, but you feel your percieved as different, unusual, odd and strange because of the disorder you have? (in my case BPD)

i worry i'm percieved as a person to be avoided, not to get involved with, who is viewed as weird or mad by the well adjusted majority in society.
i feel outcasted and ostracized by the normal adjusted majority of society....when all i want to do is fit in and 'belong' and be normal, have friends and be liked and accepted.

iam 30, i have never really made any friends in life due to my disorder, ive experienced exceptional trauma to....i try to soldier on alone and try to fight the good fight...but its getting very difficult for me...i feel unwanted, alone, lonely and outcasted...singled out by the healthy majority.
i was born in south france and my top goal is to immigrate from britain to build a new life, but i no it will be difficult for me to achieve this with

everything i have to get through in my life. which is
very depressing.
i want to know how can i deal with these depressing factual
circumstances?
sensible answers only. thanks

plus because of everything, i have physically aged, rapidly

Answer 1

You can not go through life worrying about what someone else may or may not be thinking about you. Life is way to short for that. My motto is; if it won’t matter in 100 years it’s not going to matter today".

What is normal? There are no guidelines anywhere that say this is normal that is not. I would die if I woke up and thought I was what society calls normal. I have always done my own thing, worn what I wanted to wear and lived my life as for what it is, my life.

Everyone is capable of making friends, to have a good friend you have to be a good friend. Sitting at home won’t earn you any friends; no one knows that you exist. Get out 1 night or day a week and talk to people. See what’s going on with them, you will see that we all have our troubles, even those you might think have a perfect life.

A cool place to go meet people on line is;
https://secure-web6.secondlife.com/join/?u=1fa777dd1718419a8e1efd2d4f139f9c&gclid=CL2w3uSSuY4CFQ9SZwodpyBb0A
Go there and polish up on your meeting new people skills and then go do it. The worst thing in life is a wasted life.

Don’t take yourself so seriously. Life is to be lived and not watched at the side line.

Good luck, you don’t need it, you have plenty, but good luck all the same.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear you feel so alone. I don't know much about BPD, but I know I have also felt times of loneliness and stuff. I tend to have a different way of thinking and feel that I am very different than others around me, so I don't have many friends, but it isn't like it's a contest, so I'm very happy with the friends I have because they are close to my heart.

Anyway, are there any medications or therapy sessions for people with you problem? Maybe there are others that have gone through it and have found a way to succeed. Sometimes it's helpful to talk to others that have the same problem, and I don't mean online or on here.

You also may just be approaching the wrong people who don't know how to accept people who are different. It's a real shame, but the world just isn't able to cope with that. In actuality, EVERYONE is different and EVERYONE is the same, so it shouldn't be such a big deal, but it is.

I wish there was something more I could say. I wish you the best of luck and best of health. I hope things get better for you.

Answer 3

There is a difference between perceived truth and objective truth. If you have the work experience and financial status to emigrate you're good to go. If you need character references you can get them too, hard it it may seem. If you need a medical report, you can still achieve one that looks acceptable, because the passing of time is on your side here. BPT is a chimera and it's always possible to go into a doctor on one of your good days and get a clean bill of health. This trick is to BELIEVE you're not as handicapped as you might think and then to get it in writing from cooperative persons. In my long life and similar struggles with BPD I"ve come to realize that the "GREAT SPIRIT" WANTS PEOPLE TO SUCCEED IN THEIR LEGITIMATE AIMS, and most good people will agree... Write to me privately if you wish and maybe we can talk.....Meanwhile, understand that many of us understand your position and can empathize completely!

Answer 4

All you have to do is remember the account in the bible with jesus. Even the most perfect man faced 10 times more persecution and diversity than us. it is written that the unpopular one and the lowly one will be shown favor. dont worry about the world and how it perceives you the world is merely the devil. WORRY ABOUT OUR LORD AND SAVIOR AND HOW HE PERCEIVES YOU

Answer 5

i am 25 and know how you feel. i go through the same. try me at [e-mail]. i will be here for you.

Answer 6

you don't have any friends to speak of ey? I bet if you looked around closely you would find that you do...