I have been with my boyfriend 10 months and he hasn't told me he loves me.
He says "he adores me", "I am the best " and even "I am falling in love with you so much."
He gives various reasons for not being ready to say it yet - which is fine - I know it's not a race. He has been engaged twice - was left the first time, second person he said he fell out of love with. He said he fell in love more quickly with these girls and cites this as one of the reasons for not telling me he loves me. Do you think this is true or he just doesn't feel it at all for me? He is in his thirties and he always tells me he wants to be with me forever, and he's not the sort of person who would stay with someone for the sake of it, for sex etc. He is at a stage in his life where he is really looking for a life partner - am I it and he is just being cautious because he wants it to work? Or am I kidding myself?
2007-09-10 03:28:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are going to move in together in January and he told me he wants us to buy a place together.
2007-09-10 03:29:52 · update #1
I am 28 and he is 32
2007-09-10 03:38:04 · update #2
oh he likes you. you have nothing to worry about at all. i think that all he is worried about is something that has happened in the past happening again. he has had his heart broken by the sounds of it and has hurt someone by falling out of love with them. it sounds to me like he doesnt want to hurt you and at the same time is keeping his barriers up so you cant hurt him. i suppose its like with most things, if you speak about it out loud it makes it true and maybe he is worried that if he says "i love you" then he has dropped all his barriers and is easily hurt again.i was the same with my current boyfriend. i loved hm to bits but had been hurt badly in the past and didnt want to say it until i was 100% sure and 100% ready to face that fact that i had given my all to him. i suppose i love you is the last step to haveing a full relationship. hope this makes sence!
2007-09-10 03:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lethal-Lizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why has he been engaged twice? Why did the first one ditch him? If he was going off number 2, why did he get engaged to her? Did he tell them he loved them? You've been with eachother 10 months so if you are all so lovey-dovey, why are you waiting until January to move in together? Why not now? Is it him or is it you? I'd stay just as you are for another 10 months and see what happens. He's obviously had a bad time in the past and is dubious about committing himself to you which is understandable - but this sounds like it's all about him. What about you and your feelings? You also figure in this partnership. Don't buy a house together, don't get pregnant and don't marry him.......yet.
2007-09-10 03:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move in.
Do yourself a favor; wait for the man who is willing to make a public, legal commitment to you....a.k.a. marry you.
Say you do move in and in a month or a year or ten years he decides it's not what he wants or you decide it's not what you want. Split everything, take the chance some of your precious possessions get ruined or left behind and you don’t have them anymore. Find a place to live and start again.
Say in that time you have children but you can't stand each other you're stuck with each other until the children are 18 and he doesn't have to support them any longer unless they are still in school [you supporting them if you're the primary wage earner].
Say he's a bad father and you can't get full custody so you're always worried about them when they're with him. Say he says you're a bad mother and tries to get full custody and you have to fight to prove you’re a fit mother.
Don’t “shack-up” … you’ll likely live to regret it.
2007-09-10 03:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think ur kidding ur self there are lots of great guy out there that want to really and truly mean it when they say they love someone. give it sometime and he'll come around but don't lose interest in him or you might be the one who isn't really in love. He will respect you alot more if there is no pressure
2007-09-10 03:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by oladipodo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to make it work. He's just afraid of jinxing it. Have faith in your relationship with him and work with him so that the two of you will prevail. I think you'd feel the same way if you put yourself out there when you proposed to the one you thought was your "One"... Walk a mile in his shoes, maybe there's more.
2007-09-10 03:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by LadyD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you guys are not having sex yet, i think he might be serious,but just wait and see,by the time he says it, u'll know for sure that he really means it.
2007-09-10 03:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by cassoujb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,it sounds like he likes you!
Because,if your moving in together,he obviously is inlove with you!
Goodluck.
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2007-09-10 03:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you no that answer! Follow your instincts. Be careful.
2007-09-10 03:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you - he'll ask to marry you.
2007-09-10 03:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Say It Like You Mean It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you
2007-09-10 03:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by will u answer me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋