her daughter was addicted to pain pills, she has been in rehab and put in jail because her urine came back positive, my sister is about to lose it, and her husband has been dead for a few years.I'd like to know what if anything I could do to help my sister out. She is just at a rock and a hard place. We talk on the phone once a week, and I let her vent her problems to me, but I feel so bad for her, she didn't do anything wrong, yet she is being punished. Her daughter also, lost her house, and is having to wear a ankle monitor for a few years. Any helpful suggestions would be appreciated, please only ones who will help, not smart remarks. Can you help?
2007-09-10 02:46:25 · 5 answers · asked by mutt 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it was nice of your sister to help her daughter but she did NOT HAVE TO!
your sister needs to place limits and restrictions on the daughter.... and not put up with her crap.....
your sister also need to place restrictions and set rules for the daughter, and if she doesn't follow the rules, then she will have to find another place to live. it's simple as that... it's difficult, but your sister can't just give up her life because her adult daughter is in trouble.
addiction is a powerful thing, and believe me when i tell you, the addict sees their addiction as more important than anything, even the love for their own mom....
perhaps your sister could attend OPEN narcotics anonymous meetings in her area. If she opts to do this she will likely learn a lot from recovering addicts.. she can ask questions and they will certainly let your sister know how to deal with her daughter....
another thing she might do is talk to a therapist... one who is experienced with addiction.
Narcotics Anonymous has a website (do a search).
take care
2007-09-10 03:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could say "No method!". But that's me. I have no idea your entire main issue, however should you do, your daughter will frequently finish up being a teenage mom. Let her cross to tuition and be a baby. ** Dah! I'm sorry, I misinterpret the query. I did not become aware of she used to be already pregnant. I could have got to say that if the fellow is liable and might be a well Dad to the youngster and works, then sure. If he simply wishes to loose-load and isn't what you could name "a well man" then no. He demands to do the proper factor. Being of age, he must were liable sufficient to not get your daughter pregnant within the first position. But, I am comfortable she is maintaining the youngster and I am comfortable you're there for them. My sister acquired pregnant at sixteen and my dad and mom stood by means of her the whole time. She completed tuition, acquired a excellent activity and raised the youngster proper. The Dad used to be additionally very concerned within the youngster's lifestyles. That's primary!
2016-09-05 08:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is offer your moral support when she needs you. She isn't being punished.....bad things happen to good people everyday of the week. I am the least religious person you will ever meet, but for some people, attending church makes them feel better....not so alone with their problems. Why not encourage her to seek help not for her daughter, but for herself, within the religious community.
2007-09-10 15:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to set the rules and the first time her daughter breaks one, put her out.
2007-09-10 03:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing else you can do. that one call is a god send to her though. it's always good to have someone to vent to. maybe you could take a ride out there one week end and get her out for a while.
i have to ask, why did she let her daughter back in?
2007-09-10 02:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋