I just need some advice. My mother has emailed my step-father saying that she wants a separation. She hasn't been honest with me either. I have a feeling that she went back to an old boyfriend from her teenage years (who is married)!
My mom has never been happy. After my father died she got married to my step-father only after one year. They've been married now for about 7 years and now she says that she's not happy. My step-father is a good man and recently walked me down the aisle on the happiest day of my life; I refuse to abandon him. But now my mother and I aren't speaking with each other because we just fight and all the conversations are useless.
I believe that marriage is forever. I can't imagine treating a person as if they are disposable. My mom is also leaving her two cats and dogs; I think her behavior is disrespectful/disgusting. She just got on a plane and left all of them...and now she's not going back.
It seems like all I can do is pray for her?
2007-09-10 02:21:36 · 7 answers · asked by CaymanSunrise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to put yourself in your mother's shoes i guess? She is apparently not happy with her husband... You don't have to live with your step-father, or be married to him, so you really can't say what he's like as a husband.
Perhaps your mom has depression or other issues, as well. She is the one who is responsible for her own life... no one else can run it for her....
Hon you don't have to "abandon" your step father. If the two of you have a good relationshp, i see no reason to abaondon him... he has become a part of your life.
Maybe your mom is making a mistake, but she has to figure it out for herself.
Meanwhile, i'm glad you and your step father have each other to lean on... i'm sure it's been difficult for both of you.
Take care and i hope that if your mom needs help, she will get some.
2007-09-10 02:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It depends on you what you want to do. And Nobody's advice on here can help you. You mother has obviously neglected her promises. i don't know why. Has she gone through some trauma? I see... Well in that case, I doubt you can do much about this. If 25 years of lying dormant could not change her then I don't think you can. In any case she's your mother, and My religion teaches me to respect my mother, regardless of the situation. So, obviously, you can't leave her alone. But it's no use trying to push her to do the right stuff, either. I honestly don't know what to say, except for the fact that the more you struggle with patience due to to your mother neglecting her duties, the higher will be the reward from God. Ignoring the shortcomings from your mother at this age and living with it and still being dutiful to them is very good deed indeed. Everyone is tested continuously in life and has to go through trials and sufferings. Hopefully God will find a way for you out of this. Stay Happy!. May God Bless you and guide you!
2016-03-18 03:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd agree that praying for her is the best idea. If you are afraid every talk will be a confrontation, i would avoid speaking to her till you both can talk without fighting. That would be really hard to deal with. You could tell her how you feel, and let her listen to you, and then you listen to her. But in all reality it "IS" her life. I know you want the best for her but, did you like everything she told you? Probably not...This doesn't mean that YOU have to stop communication with your step-father, she can't decide that..
2007-09-10 02:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right or wrong, this is your mother's life and she can choose to do whatever she wants to do with it. it's not your place to fight over her decision, she is the one that has to live with it; and, your disagreeing and fighting over it, isn't going to change her mind. let her find out for hereself, if what she is doing is right or wrong. yes, pray for her and love her.
2007-09-10 03:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your Mother has a lot to sort out concerning her life. Be there for her when you can and let her know that you love her and are praying for her.
2007-09-10 03:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same question for me also, but i think firstly mother have some faith on you that which gives her confidence on you because her decision depends on you also.
2007-09-10 02:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Narayan akul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older people get, the wiser they should become...although this is not always true. Let it go, give it time and if it blows up in her face, she won't have anyone to blame but herself.
2007-09-10 03:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋