if your baby was switched in hospital at the birth and you had brought another persons child up for 2 years before you found out...would you swap back?
2007-09-10 00:46:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That's a really hard question...I would have grown very attached to the child I had raised for two years, yet I would still feel a primal pull to the child I had conceived and given birth to. I don't think there could ever be a truly satisfactory outcome for this type of thing. The most you could hope for is that you and the other family get along really well, and live close enough to each other (ideally next door) so that you can both share parenting of BOTH children.
It happened here in Central Victoria years ago, and the families found out when the children were about four I think...they had a terrible time, and both the girls who were swapped suffered dreadfully from the seperation from the family that raised them, and their sudden change into a different family of strangers who were their real family, loved them and expected them to fit in straight away. It was an awful tragedy for everyone involved.
2007-09-10 01:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a home birth, or room-in in the hospital.
I doubt there is much confusion in hospital nurseries and if there was, I'm sure it would be solved before 2 years.
...anyways, to answer the question. I would swap back with a heavy heart, and try to remain close with the other child/family.
I tend not to think about things like this though, it's one of those things like rocking chairs, you think and think and it gets you no where.
2007-09-10 08:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by vegface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is what you are going thru than i feel very sorry for you. I myself would want to switch back the children. It would be better in the long run as in later life they would end up hating you and you would end up with nothing.
You would pray that the parent of the child that you had raised would keep in contact and that the 2 kids could grow up as friends. At least that way you could continue to see them.
Thank goodness they not only put arm and leg bands on them now when there born but also some horrible tape that takes weeks for you to get it off their backs without damaging their beautiful soft skin.
2007-09-10 10:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Piccola Sorella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear, tough one. I would want my child back but would want to keep in very close touch with the other child as it would be so hard to break the bond you had developed.
There would have to be some sort of transition-swap back phase too so everyone was happy, mainly the children in question..
can't even imagine what it would feel like to have that happen...
2007-09-10 07:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I could give back the child I had raised for 2 years. Just like in adoption cases, what makes you a parent is the fact that you are the one to stay up with them in the night, take care of them, kiss their boo-boos, help them with their first steps. Certainly I would want to know my biological child. I would want to be in very close contact with the other family. The real issue would be if the other family was not taking care of my biological child in a way that was healthy to him/her.
2007-09-10 08:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This happend to me,but for only 1 minute when my mum noticed and switched back. It would be very hard to give a baby back after 2 years when you cared and loved for 2 years. But also you would want your own flesh and blood back.
2007-09-10 07:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by stuengland2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a difficult one, I wouldnt like to say what I would do unless I was actually in that situation.
EDIT- I just thought, if you got on with the other parents then maybe you could buy a big house and all live together, that way you get to be with your own child as well as the one you thought was your child and you brought up for two years. crazy idea or ingenious?
2007-09-10 07:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh!!! What a horrible decision to make. I always wondered what I would do.
I honestly dont know, but Im guessing the wisest thing would be to swap when they are still young. Or I'd ask if I can have both, lol.
Have a star*
2007-09-10 07:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
of coarse i would swap back!!! what kind of a question is that----im sure the other mother would want the baby she gave birth to ---think about the later life things like what if the baby had a health problem or needed blood who would be a better person to help and also wouldnt you want a baby that has some of your traits good luck in the decision
2007-09-10 08:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by tammy n 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd be absolutely devastated, but i would definitely swap back. Otherwise i'd go through years of WHAT IF's. But i'd make sure to keep in contact with the other child, i'd still want to be part of his/her life. God that situation would be a parents worst nightmare.
2007-09-10 08:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by sparkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋