2007-09-09 23:24:44 · 15 answers · asked by rlozaa@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Who'd he ask instead? His brother or another family member? Maybe he feels someone else is closer to him than you, or maybe he feels you don't have the time/money/responsibility to carry out the duties.
Do you have a specific question..? Unfortunately, sometimes these things happen! I wasn't asked to be in my brother's wedding, either. I was upset at first but you get over it.
2007-09-10 01:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he did ask a family member, then you should not be shocked or upset. However, if you were good friends for that long, and he asked someone else, then there is either problems between the two of you, or he is just not doing things the way he should. Try talking to him about it and see what his reasoning behind it was.
2007-09-10 06:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me tell you that making that decision is incredibly difficult and almost impossible to do without hurting someone's feelings. I asked my 'oldest' friend, from 2nd grade, who I was still friends with to stand up with me and didn't ask my 'best' friend from high school. My high school friend was hurt but I couldn't win in that situation so I picked the person who would take the biggest offense if I hadn't asked her.
Take it as a compliment and consider he thinks you're a good enough friend to understand. Certainly don't take it personally, well, take it anyway you FEEL, but I wouldn't take it personally if I were you. Go to the wedding, think of a witty toast, and have a blast!
2007-09-10 22:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gr8estluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well who did he ask? If it was a brother or a close relative, you shouldn't be so surprised. I know I will most likely never be the maid of honor at anyone's wedding because all of my best friends have sister's who obviously take presidence over me. As long as you're still in the wedding party, be happy for your friend and have a good time at the wedding.
2007-09-10 09:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am guilty of this. When I got married in 1993 I did not ask my friend, the one I was Maid of Honor for at her wedding. I only had the one attendant. I asked another friend.
My reason was, we had been going through a rough patch, and she had been MOH for another girl, and complained what a pain in the butt it was. I just assumed she wouldn't want to do it again, for me. The girl I did ask liked doing things like that, and I was closer to her at that time.
Me and my first friend talked about it, she said I was mistaken to think she wouldn't have wanted to be asked, and I said I regretted not asking. She didn't come to my wedding, but I did invite her.
2007-09-10 10:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who did he ask instead?
What exactly are you asking?
I'd be a little upset if a friend of 10 years didn't ask me to be in the party, but would not make it a big deal since its his/her wedding and they can ask who they wish for whatever reason they have.
2007-09-10 08:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although 10 years is a long time, who did he ask? Did he ask someone like his brother? Or someone he's known his whole life? In that case, it's understandable. Also, maybe he thoght you wouldn't be into it...
2007-09-10 09:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I thought only women got in a snit about these type of things. Man up!
2007-09-10 20:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kirk S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be, too. Unless he asked a family member. But if he asked another friend who had less history, I would be hurt.
2007-09-10 12:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress over it. Perhaps he felt pressure from his family or fiance to choose someone else. It happens ALL the time. Don't take it personally.
2007-09-10 08:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋