l no its wrong but l don't no wht to do .My boyfrnd he is not from my country he says he marrried her to get papers. Am the one whom he does everything with. this weekend l run away from his house cause l don't no wht to do l think we don't have a future pliz tell me wht to do cause am so confussed. and my ex l told you guy about l saw him yestarday he said he want to fix things out .So we decide for him to come and pick me up at my house as he dosen't no were am staying l promised him l will call him but l didn't call him.one more thing l working for my boyfrnd in his business.plesa help me on wth to do
2007-09-09 20:58:26 · 17 answers · asked by holy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a deal!..you work for him, do all the running around, and he is married to someone in a different country. Sounds like he has it made in the shade.
I would drop him like a hot potato...there is no future in it for you. Find someone who is available and will appreciate you.
2007-09-09 21:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Married is married.
You're right in that your relationship with your "married" boyfriend is going no where. If you even think in those terms, you're right and go with that.
Ex husband ... this is really a situation. Only if you want to, call your ex husband. Just don't use the phone at work. Make call from another phone. Plan to meet with him and at that time you can tell him of the situation.
Remember, he is your ex husband. You are no longer married. He doesn't have the right to be angry with you no matter what the situation is. You can walk away at any time.
If you don't want to do any of the above then don't. If you are living with your boy friend, get an apartment of your own. If he's living with you in your apartment, he should pack his things and leave. I only say this because, as you said, you are confused and don't know what to do.
If possible, be by yourself so you can think. All of this happening at the same time is too much for anyone. Give yourself time with no interruption's. You need to find out what it's like to be alone. You may even find that it feels pretty good to live alone. Just think, fewer responsibilities. Don't have to think about anyone but yourself. How long has that been?
Can't make your decisions. That's your responsibility.
These are only a few suggestions. You have to do what you think is right.
Good Luck .... you have lots to think about. Remember, you are your own person. You belong to you. Not anyone else.
2007-09-09 21:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Eagles Fly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to leave that married man alone, Leave before you get your heart broken. Dont set your self up for something like that you deserve better. You dont wanna share your man with someone else. As far as the ex boyfriend, ask your self why did ya'll broke up in the first place, and is it worth going back.
2007-09-09 21:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is one born every minute? You used bad judgment and got involved with someone who cannot meet his obligations. It is not a good idea to become involved with men who are not available no matter what the reason is. Married is married, get it? If you don't like confusion and chaos, stay away from married men.
2007-09-09 21:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by GENE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say trust your gut about sensing no future with your current boyfriend. Because you work for him I would look for another job and quit. Depending on why you broke up with your ex it could be a good or bad idea to get back together. I think for now though you might be better off just flying solo for awhile. Give yourself time to gather your thoughts and discover more about yourself. : )
2007-09-09 21:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. No matter why he says he married his wife...he is married.
Besides, if he lied to a woman and told her he loved her to get his papers, he is a dishonest person anyway.
Married is married! Stay away.
2007-09-10 01:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know in your mind it is wrong, your heart makes you do what is wrong.
But I just live by karma, what goes around comes around.
You would never ever want to be the one cheated on, to be that wife at home.
She may not know but whomever you believe in watching down upon us knows, and you know yourself.
2007-09-09 21:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by G1rL1nLA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless ur boyfriend is married to you then forget about him. As for the xboyfriend, they are best left as x's. Move on and find a new job!
2007-09-09 21:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
it's so confusing for me to understand your story,but if this it in a way i undertsand..you had a foriegn boyfriend which is married in your country and he told you he just married just to be legaly stayed in your country but you is his everything right?
if i say so,then why not settle things by talking to him confronting him what you feel can lessen your doubts,running away from these kind of problem specially feelings involved is so hurty or painfull to any one else but just facing these and talking this in anice way for both of you will set your mind free from any negative thoughts,this so crucial decisions but pushing your self to your idiocy cannot solve your problem specially your ex boyfriend come along with this situation,it's might added your wrong intuition about goin things to proper...be fair enough to youself and to your boyfriend, get a place,a solem one to relax your mind and to think it over..good luck...
2007-09-09 21:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by aqoniCgie 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If I were you I would click the "Check Spelling" button more often.
Regarding your question:
I think you and your boyfriend might be a good match and probably deserve each other.
2007-09-09 21:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by my_dog's_friend 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋