Guys. I have had this girl for two months now and I cannot just have an erection for more than two minutes even after romancing. She is good but we just cannot do anything and now she thinks I have a problem yet I get an erection by even hugging other girls. What could be the problem? Any way out? For the girls, what is wrong with me or this girl?
2007-09-09 20:53:05 · 13 answers · asked by quorora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are getting too nervous, or she reminds you of someone you hold very close to your heart (one you would not have s*x with)
2007-09-09 20:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by charlie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon for men to have problems maintaining an erection at some point. What happens in many cases, however, is the guy starts obsessing over it and putting more pressure on himself, which makes the problem worse. It's not a bad idea to go to a doctor, explain your problem, and rule out any possible medical causes, although the background that you gave to your question makes this seem unlikely. For the next little while, perhaps you should just focus on some nice, erotic, non-sexual activities such as massages, things like that. Do things that are pleasurable for the both of you, but don't focus on having sex. Eventually, your ability to "get it up" will come back, but like a lot of things in life, sometimes you get what you want when you're not focusing so hard on getting it. If it's really an ongoing problem, you might want to see a sex therapist, but I'd suggest first trying activities that don't have to culminate in sex so that it takes the pressure off you.
2007-09-09 21:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd disagree with some of the answers that I've read already. There's definitely something at the root of the problem, but be careful how you bring up the subject. It sounds like you may have compounded the problem already. No man like to hear that he's not satisfying his woman. It does put incredible pressure on a man to perform, and the more pressure the less likely he's going to perform and it's a slippery slope after that. You might want to see a professional to help you guys through this.
2016-05-21 00:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo man, nothings wrong with you or Sir Chuckles (Your weiner's name). Your just having to much pressure, just give it a break for a couple of days. Then when you see your girl, give her a hug dont rush to having sex, it'll come naturally don't wait for it. If that does not work, theres always viagra :O
2007-09-09 20:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give your age - but you sound young. You don't say your medical conditions and whether this has happened before. Besides - quit having sex until you are married - show the girl she is something special! But, it is either:
1 - performance anxiety - so calm down, relax and enjoy
2 - it is mental - you might need some professional counseling
3 - it is physical - are you diabetic? what meds are you taking?
2007-09-09 21:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by vegasrob89118 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a mind problem either that or you masturbate to much give the lil guy a rest for like 3 or 4 days let him get his stamina back and try again it that doesnt work go see your local GP, and dont be low and blame her its not her fault .I bet she'd have no problem getten your best friend ready ;o).
2007-09-09 20:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are getting too nervous about having sex with her. Performance anxiety is very normal. Just relax and quit pressuring yourself. If you continute to think about it, you will pyschologically make yourself feel too stressed out to have sex. Is she especially attractive? If so, she may be intimidating to you. Pretend she is someone else. Good luck.
2007-09-09 21:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LAUGHING MY FU**ING A*S OFF, and the question reads "have sex with my NEW girlfriend......and then ive HAD THIS GIRL FOR TWO MONTHS NOW......... LMAO!!!!! PIMP.
2007-09-09 23:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by J M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're probably too nervous
2007-09-09 20:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its possilbe that your girl does not turn you on. or could it be that you want to wait until the right time to hit second base. give it time my bro it will come naturally. meanwhile tell your girl that yo are waiting for the right time
2007-09-09 21:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i heard if you watch allot of porn this might happen, try viagra.
also usualy for some the chase or anticipation of sex is more exciting then the actual deed itself.
2007-09-09 20:59:15 · answer #11 · answered by duds400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋